I learned my lesson with just one attempt at thinking porn was real. My wife has a good friend who was out of a relationship and was itching to get fucked. My wife asks if I mind. You know my answer. They are both bent over the edge of our bed and I am supposed to do them both doggy. Sounded great but it was a lot of work. The wife cums quickly so I pump her first. But she continues to stay in position as I enter her friend. The friend takes a bit more work but she also cums. Now I don’t know where to finish. I want to finish in the friend just because it’s different. So I reach over and start fingering my wife’s ass as I explode into her friend. This was never discussed prior to starting but now both of them are annoyed that I came in the friend and not my wife
sounding, I think what I used was too big, but it burned and my urethra was sore for a few days
Standing 69. Managed it for about 3 secs, then my knee buckled and ended slamming both of us into the wall. We tried to keep going, but it wasn’t going anywhere.
Extremely athletic poses are great for showing off but not for getting off.
Bondage, with ropes specifically. Nothing sexier than trying to tie someone up while watching a tutorial on youtube on it and permanently skipping back/forth, because it is not quite clear how things happened. 10/10 mood killer. I think my rope play kink died that night.
Haha, I actually love that dynamic though. (Quality time learning skills together is super sexy!) Eventually you don’t need the tutorials any more, of course, and the flow gets better.
You gotta prepare!
yoga D O N T
Cumming on her face, yes it feels hot at the moment but it just turns into a hot mess that needs cleaning up
Doesn’t sound like too much of a problem to me!
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Either sex on the beach because of sand, or creampie while not on birth control because of a pregnancy scare
Always have a safe word.
Mine is, “meatloaf”.
Mine is any weird word. If we’re fooling around and you say "eggplant Tamagotchi naruto hentai’ that is a good clue that something is wrong and therefore everything else needs to come to a halt until the issue is dealt with.
No disrespect, but: yikes! Safewords are not about “clues”. A safeword means, “I no longer consent.” It has actual legal and moral consequence. Something you make up on the spot cannot bear that kind of load, it has to be explicitly agreed upon. Or it’s not a safeword!
I don’t know why everybody doesn’t just use “red”. A large enough portion of practitioners already use it, and it’s incredibly helpful to have a universal safeword. Say it loud and clear, at least three times. I repeat it until my partners all say it back. Fuck around with everything else (“no mean yes, Celsius means Kelvin”) but this is the place where clarity is essential for everyone’s safety, not just the bottom.
And don’t forget to have a gesture as well! Sometimes tapping out is easier than speaking, especially in some bdsm predicaments.
I don’t know why everybody doesn’t just use “red”
As you said, safe words are not about clues and red is far too easy to say during sex without it meaning emergency stop. Slap me til my cheeks turn red, I love your red underwear, etc. Sure, tripling it makes it much more obvious but things like safe words should IMHO not be things that need repeated or are reasonably likely to come up in another context during sex. Speaking nonsense isn’t my favorite either but I sure don’t love “redredred” being put on a pedestal either.
Because he would do anything for love, but he won’t do that?
Exactly.
Sleeping partner (consensual) I just assumed they would wake up and it will turn into more regular sex but at some point I realized that I can basically do to them whatever I want and they just wouldn’t wake up. It made me feel like it’s rape 😖
Since then I have a rule that if they don’t wake up after a bit, I quit and go to sleep too 😅
If you are in Canada, delete this post. You’ve just confessed to rape under Canadian law. When a person falls unconscious, all sexual consent is revoked; you cannot consent to have sex while you are asleep. There have been cases where police heard about and criminalized what all participants considered to be consensual sex because of this legal principle. It does not require someone “pressing charges”, the police can do this on their own volition.
Yeah, I get that, but also fuck that. If two people consent to do something that won’t cause harm then the government, any government, can keep their grubby hands out of it.
If one of the participants decides to go rogue or off script that is another thing but if two consenting adults agree that “if I’m sleeping I’m all game” then that is what they get to do. Consent can also be revoked at any time, so if the person wakes up and says no, then that’s a no. Until then I don’t need any government in my sex life.
It’s been pretty well established that many governments don’t feel the need for consent to get involved in your sex life.
So what.
Good to know 😵
But not from canada, also I doubt Lemmy is on the radar right now 😅
CNC. Her idea.
She started crying almost immediately, which brought the whole thing to a stop.
It was not fun for anyone.
Never again.
Computer Numerical Control CNC stands for Computer Numerical Control. It refers to the automated control of machining tools, such as drills and lathes, using a computer. This process involves inputting coded instructions into a computer, which translates the code into precise movements for the cutting tools.
BROTHER WHAT DID YOU DO
Had to look it up, pretty hard to watch 😬
CNC is consensual non-consent, ie fake rape.
It’s what some people are into and it requires a lot of trust. Fair enough of it’s not your thing
I think I might be into it, but watching it is kind of scary 😅
Find someone you trust a lot and slowly build in that direction!
Either you have a kink for Computer Numerical Control machines or I’m misunderstanding the acronym.
M00 is my safe word. Though I’ll also accept M01 - M04
How about fluggelgleckheimlen?
*Flügeleckhelmchen spreche sie gefälligst deutsch!
Brother, in retrospect, honestly, wish we were talking about G-code because G-code is something worth crying over, but no.
As someone with a 3D printing hobby: can confirm, G-code is indeed worth crying over.
I almost don’t want to shatter your bubble. Consensual Non-Consent. Means that one partner can take the other partner at any time without warning. And I had the similar situation as the comment you replied to. She wanted to until I picked her up over my shoulder and carried her to the bedroom.
I think you’re mixing up a lack of specific consent to a specific situation and non-consent. What you’re describing sounds more like free use than CNC. They can overlap, but the venn diagram isn’t a circle.
CNC is an agreement that one partner can act as if they don’t consent or revoke it while actually still consenting. It’s something people who like to be dominated and physically submitted can enjoy without needing to take on the risks involved in finding that for real, since even people who like their boundaries pushed a bit have limits beyond which it stops being enjoyable and could even become traumatizing.
Free use is an agreement that says consent is always implied. It’s nice for those who prefer physical seduction over verbal, or who like sex to go from 0-100 faster than they can realize their partner is initiating.
They can sound similar, but where they can differ is important.
For CNC, consent can usually be revoked using a safeword. “No” doesn’t mean “no” but some other word can. It can be a good idea to have codewords for “more of this”, “stop that specific thing but not everything else”, “slow down”, “pause for a break or talk but I want to resume after”, and “just stop, we’re done”.
For free use, unless there’s a CNC agreement on top of it, “no” still means no. Consent might be implied but can still be revoked.
At their extremes, they are pretty much the same thing, but to assume someone being interested in CNC means you can randomly just do it or that free use means they can’t say no is actually closer to real rape than rape play. And whether it actually crosses the boundary has nothing to do with your intentions but everything to do with how your partner sees the act.
Don’t ever assume anything when it comes to this shit. Even if you were right in your description, your partner might still have a different idea than you do. Talk about it extensively and very specifically, especially concerning boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed during play. Go slow and ease into it. You can always have better sex later if you both decide you want more.
Some people freeze and shut down when something traumatic happens to them, so going all out from the start might involve blasting past a boundary they didn’t realize they had, and then you assuming their body language is part of the play, only to find out after the fact that they hated the whole thing and might have even lost feelings for you because of it. And then you might still go to prison for rape, despite having no intention of doing so in the first place.
Means that one partner can take the other partner at any time without warning.
NO, it does NOT mean that. I mean, it can in a specific case where that’s what you negotiate, but that’s not what it means in general.
Not authoritative. And the definition given is dangerous and misleading. CNC absolutely does not mean “the ability to withdraw consent has been waived”!! You should have thought twice before you cited that.
CNC includes a wide range of activities, and impressionable young people should check exactly what is meant in context. CNC is SIMULATED non-consent. If you are really in a situation where you have waived or expect your partner to waive the power to withdraw consent, you have left the realm of kink and BDSM and you are DEEP into abuse.
That definition seems confusing and wrong. Isn’t it just rape play?
Because the wiki definition makes it sound like you revoke your ability to refuse, which makes no sense, like that can’t end in anything good, it’s basically invalidating safe words 😅
CNC is rape play, yes, and yes, there should always be safe words, just nothing like “no” because going against “no” is the entire point.
This is not for everyone but at the same time, please don’t kink shame. Just bet you don’t like it doesn’t mean someone else gets off on it. Quite a few women are into this, apparently.
There is also “no safe words” which is a whole nother level that I would not go into as that’s dangerous territory, both physically, ethically, and legally. Stay away.
Yes, and weirdly enough some people are into that. As loath as I am to quote Vice here: https://www.vice.com/en/article/consensual-non-consent-meaning/
And here: https://www.naturalcycles.com/cyclematters/consensual-non-consent
I would be into trying it, but I think only if I knew that I could physically get out if I truly wanted to 😅
Knowing that I am 100% in someone else’s hands is something that goes against my most basic instincts 😅
You know those crazy Japanese videos where they cover a woman in gallons of lube, ruin her nice outfit, and go to town while everyone is all slimy?
So, sure it’s fun. Like stupid, giggly fun, but it’s also hard to get any traction, it’s distracting when it gets in your ears and nose, and it’s super, super hard to clean up. Like two showers just to get it all out of her hair.
We tried it a few times. The fantasy was fun to fulfill, but the sex was kinda meh, so not really worth the effort to make it a regular thing.
are you 2 or more?
I don’t follow…
you said “We tried it few times. .” though earlier you described an act of a gangbang or threesome at least
Ah, yeah, it was just my SO and I. But most of the videos are gangbang scenes.
Going in dry.
My ass still hurts.
Unless it’s actual painal, there’s always some preapplied lube in there, it’s just high production porn does not want to show any lubing procedure (unless they’re sponsored by a lube company).
Dry anal?? 😵😵😵
Hard fast and rough, like safe words level. It’s just not me. There is a level of internal guilt like emotions after that I just don’t like. Maybe from growing up always being much larger than friends and partners. I can be loud and scary to many people but I’m just not violent by nature and anything that resembles violence is distasteful to me. I have too much empathy holding me back.
I havent tried stuff like that but I imagine I’ll feel similarly. But I’ll have to try to find out
Shower sex. Its not really just a porn thing but shower sex is highly overrated IMO lol. Water is the enemy of bodily produced lube, and if you’re trying to be all spontaneous and sexy like in the movies it just turns into the wettest “dry” mess ever. Unless she’s already just abslotely gushing or you keep a bottle of water resistant lube in the shower, I prefer to leave the fucking for outside the tub 😅. Plus then you oil or lube in the floor and your gonna slip and break a hip. That being said getting/giving head works better, granted waterboarding yourself can become an issue. 😋
Sex in the ocean, pool, lake, whatever, just sucks for everyone.
Not the fish! They get free food and a show! 🤩
Just watch for crabs 🦀
Shower is awesome but just for foreplay, so much skin contact and massaging possible and then you fuck in the bathroom because you didnt reach the bedroom
Agreed! Wife’s favorite porn is shower stuff, despite knowing exactly how awful it really is. This and pools are the same to me. I actually hate all that type of porn myself, lol.
