• Neu@lemmynsfw.com
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    4 days ago

    That definition seems confusing and wrong. Isn’t it just rape play?

    Because the wiki definition makes it sound like you revoke your ability to refuse, which makes no sense, like that can’t end in anything good, it’s basically invalidating safe words 😅

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      4 days ago

      CNC is rape play, yes, and yes, there should always be safe words, just nothing like “no” because going against “no” is the entire point.

      This is not for everyone but at the same time, please don’t kink shame. Just bet you don’t like it doesn’t mean someone else gets off on it. Quite a few women are into this, apparently.

      There is also “no safe words” which is a whole nother level that I would not go into as that’s dangerous territory, both physically, ethically, and legally. Stay away.

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        4 days ago

        I would be into trying it, but I think only if I knew that I could physically get out if I truly wanted to 😅

        Knowing that I am 100% in someone else’s hands is something that goes against my most basic instincts 😅

        • MyDarkestTimeline01@lemmynsfw.com
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          4 days ago

          I mean before even thinking of thinking about trying it you need to have a partner you can trust and as these situations are agreed upon before hand, there are usually agreed upon rules involved. Like “spank and slap me, don’t punch and choke me”. Beas with all things trust and communication before hand, and being a vigilant partner always.

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            4 days ago

            I just don’t think that for me it’s possible to trust anyone in that way. Not as in I don’t trust them, but rather my instincts can’t be ignored 😅