• make -j8@lemmy.world
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    7 days ago

    Becausebof various political shit happening around the world, my main friendship is gone

    36, less than once per month

  • MrScottyTay@sh.itjust.works
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    Depends on the group.

    I go climbing with same group at least once a week.

    Then I have my big circle of vegan friends, where we try to see each other at least once a month but that can happen more often sometimes.

    Then there’s my classic circle of friends I’ve been friends with forever and the same for that, usually once a month.

    So even if you disregard my weekly climbing I usually see at least one group of friends every other week but sometimes every week.

    Edit: 31 by the way

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    I play DnD with some of my close friends. We also try to get together at one of our houses every once in a while to do “arts and crafts” stuff. Paint figurines, carve pumpkins, gingerbread houses, painting shitty paintings with bob ross. Sometimes we have “scary movie night”, or watch over the garden wall, or a new anime that came out something. Sometimes we’ll go out to do things too, the Zoo, or museums, or a haunted house, or coen maze this time of year. We started doing this after COVID. It seems kinda silly, but having a good excuse to get, like, a half a dozen or so friends together and hang out IRL is honestly great. Sometimes i don’t wanna get up on a Saturday to do it, but I’m always glad I did. It’s hard to come up with excuses to do things in person that aren’t prohibitively expensive, nor infrequent.

  • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
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    7 days ago

    i think everyone on this thread should say their approximate location, then DM anyone on your area to see if you’re closer enough to be IRL friends.

    I’m in South West Michigan area.

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    7 days ago

    Feels like less than once a month. I don’t have a routine of hanging out with friends. I’m not even sure who considers me their friend. Everyone lives far away and I blame car culture for that.

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    I have an active social life but mostly around shared interests, eg book clubs, sports, some activism, etc. Classic friendships not so much, having drifted from childhood friends. Feels like we live in different worlds. My partner has taken that place.

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      yeah same. i do stuff. i see people. none of them are my friends.

      i haven’t had a close regular friendship since my early 20s. mostly because back then we had lots of free time to do nothing but talk about our feelings and shit. once i graduated i no longer had that luxury in life. on the flip side, i was incredibly lonely/depressed most of HS/college sometimes to the point of suicidal thoughts… even though I had many close friends and was socially popular. once i graduated and started spending most of my time alone… i stopped being lonely.

      all my old friendships ended because we became radically different people and no longer had any common interests or values. same thing with all my romantic relationships. i never found a partner who wanted to grow or change like I did, so we broke up.

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    Online pretty much all the time, in real life twice a week, at choir and at band practice. More when there are concerts.

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    7 days ago

    40, roughly weekly with high variation (sometimes not for over a month sometimes five in a week)

    Amazing to see that some people think virtual counts as seeing your friends more than rounds-to-0%

  • gerryflap@feddit.nl
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    At the moment almost every weekend in person, though on average it’s more like every 2 weeks I think. It used to be way more but after finishing my study it became insanely hard to meet new people like myself. I also game with friends more than half of the days in the evenings tho, so that’s nice.

    The main loss since finishing my study is the regularity and spontaneity of meeting with friends. It requires careful alignment of agenda’s and planning ahead for over a month to get something done. I hate planning, but the downside of making friends who are like me is that most of my friends also hate doing so. So sometimes I have to push a bit to get stuff planned. Previously we’d naturally run into eachother and just decide to grab a beer that evening or watch a movie or something.

    I’d also live to make more queer friends where I’m at but every group seems to be for students or elderly or something.