• Melllvar@startrek.website
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    Remember Valentine’s day 2004, when San Francisco county started issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples?

    Thousands of couples showed up. Some from the other side of the planet, some from the other side of town. The County Clerk was overwhelmed and there weren’t nearly enough wedding officiants to keep up. So they put out a call for volunteers to be deputized by the Clerk as county marriage commissioners. I volunteered and officiated at dozens of ceremonies at city hall.

    Still have my official commission hanging on my wall.

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    Leaving Islam, I know this comment will spark some debate, which is pointless ( to me at least )… So fingers crossed nothing will happen

    Muslims often say: “oh, so you’re an atheist!, tell us where do you get your morals?” And “Oh, you left Islam so you can live a life of sin, drinking alcohol and having sex with tons of people”…

    The irony is that the reason you leave Islam ( or any other “organized” cult ) is because of your intact moral compass, you’re against violence ( murder and war ), homophobia, sexism, pedophilia, racism, slavery, genital mutilation, you’re against fear, control, indoctrination… And the list goes on… And even if it was true, I left Islam to live a life of sin, the prize of winning in Islam, is to live an internal life of sin in heaven so… 👉👈

    I live in a Muslim country, and It’s safe to say ( not out loud, if you know what I mean ) that the only reason people here are muslims is because they’re indoctrinated, from birth… you hear the same arguments, the same logical fallacies, the same pathetic biases … from every person, that’s why I said it’s pointless…

    It’s sad, to live undercover with “friends” and “family” who will let you go if they knew the real you, and it’s really a lonely life, and it gets even lonelier because I’m fucking gay, I used to think, not so much, but I thought of going back and trying to fit in, try to be like everyone else, maybe If I can live in a broken system, I’ll stop seeing how broken it is… But I can’t, and I won’t, it’s just doesn’t work like that, once you’re awakened, you can’t go back to sleep.

    So, I’m proud because I feel like I’m a better human being, because when I look around and see Muslims praying on the downfall of Jews and Christians, ( and I don’t know about Christians and Jews so don’t ask me, I would say probably the same lol… 😂, they all hate each other…) When I see that, I see how religion divides us ( “in order to rule us” … Like Mr Robot said ) and how much hate people carry because of such beliefs

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      That’s awesome - well done! Reminded me of something else, story below.

      For anyone that watched MythBusters, you’re probably aware the two main hosts, Adam and Jaimie, didn’t like each other because they were two different clashing personalities and tough to work with. There was a pirate myths episode, and Adam went all out dressing as a pirate and using a very heavy faux-pirate accent. Jaimie was laughing so hard during that scene that his whole head was red! One of the most endearing moments of the show, and something I treasure because this show was so influential for me growing up.

      Props to anyone like @Vanth@reddthat.com that makes the normally serious person laugh!

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        I’m convinced that the joke has to be so specific to that person’s sense of humor that it would not be funny to us.

        Sometimes it’s better not to know.

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      I think doing this is a life achievement. I used to work at a grocery store and was being trained by an ex military woman who was hard as nails and really no nonsense. At one point she was explaining to me the concept of First in First Out (FIFO stocking of product, meaning the oldest product stays at the front of the shelf to be purchased first).

      When she asked me “have you heard of FIFO?” I replied “Yeah, first in, last out… Oh, wait, that’s the Marine Corps”. Got an actual laugh out of her. I’ll never forget it.

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    Brushing my teeth. I’ve been through progressive hard depression from an early age. Yeah. It’s not much

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    Just cleaned up my whole apartment. I don’t think I’ve ever lived anywhere where the whole place is this clean. I normally deep clean one area then stop and by the time i clean the next area the first ones dirty again. Everything is sorted nicely, got stuff hung up that I’ve been putting off, vacuumed in every corner, the whole works. I’m exhausted but super proud

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    I have three kids. I was present for the birth of the youngest two. But I adopted my oldest. She was 12 so she had to tell the judge she was OK with it. I told her it came with two conditions: Nothing between us needed to change and she didn’t have to call me “Dad”. She calls me by first name to my face but she calls me “dad” behind my back. I’ll take it.

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    I’m 20. I haven’t made it big but I’ve moved into a place with my best friend, have paid off my car without help from my dad, have a steady job making good money, can work on my own car, and have friends that make good company. I’d say I’m proud from getting all of this in the 2 years since high school

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      Hell yeah! Proud of you, internet stranger. Quitting, I hear, is one of the most difficult things.

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        ¡I second this completely! Smoking is so hard to get over and you should be unbelievably proud of yourself for being so strong in doing the right thing for yourself ❤️

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    In 2007, I, a non-white non-Korean, took a job in South Korea. Then, I took another. Then, at the third job, I was hired, but the owner’s brother was amenable to some of the more racist thoughts that guided the approach to business in SK. He thought I would hurt the business. He resisted hiring another non-white, non-Korean.

    The owner asked me to write a letter. Instead of saying, “that’s not my job”, I wrote the letter. I made the case. They hired another non-white, non-Korean after me.

    I’m still pretty proud of that letter.

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    I took up an instrument for the first time in my late 30s and have gotten okay at it. If I was 8 years old people would nod politely to my parents after my recital.

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      what instrument? what songs are you playing, or are you originating music??

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        Mandolin. Playing Bach, American folk standards and children’s songs. Started la vie en rose tonight. No original material but it’s been fun to do something I, for a reason I no longer remember, thought was beyond me. My wife loves it. My kids are annoyed that I follow them around like a restaurant mariachi playing the same songs over and over lol.

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          Sounds fun. Don’t forget about Losing My Religion! I play guitar and drums. When I first started with guitar, I only played covers as if the only thing that mattered was my technical capacity. Once I learned a scale out if curiosity, I discovered a wholeeeee new world. I no longer bother with covers. I hope you find some courage to engage in creating something new, and if you do, please share it with me if you feel comfortable 🙂

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            Thanks for the tip about scales. Music theory has been on my mind as something to learn after I get technically good but maybe I should move it up in the batting order.

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    Being part of a team that helped a child learn to communicate in their own way. They went from dangerous head banging behaviors, having to work in a padded room to sitting at a desk with nearly no SIB. Not all wine and roses but damn it’s night and day over the last 2 years.

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    It just so happens I’m proud of something I did two hours ago as I write this sentence. A friend of mine said they needed a constant companion for the time being, and another friend said they needed a certain demographic to be friends with, and after realizing the first friend fell under that demographic, I thought “wait, do these two people know each other”. Three hours ago as I write this sentence, I introduced them, and they really hit it off. I just made three people very happy.