Call me Lenny/Leni

It’s nice to meet all you. I am she/her, can speak Toki Pona and English (non-natively), and locatable on Reddit as MozartWasARed. The links at https://discord.gg/sEuSSDz6TQ and https://www.deviantart.com/triagonal/art/My-copyright-policy-and-the-impact-it-extends-into-906668443 are pertinent to me.

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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • One of my two best friends has autism (closer to the classic kind) and his resistance is impressive. One day he got poison ivy after having run through a whole patch of it in sandals, and everyone wanted to get him treated, but he was like “nah I got this”. Looking at him, you’d think maybe it was fake poison ivy, as he made it seem like there was no pain or itchiness whatsoever despite his legs looking like raspberries. After a few weeks, it went away completely on its own.

    I’m always surprised to see people assume things when it comes to health; that’s one of the last areas of expertise one should be assuming things in. I have a few medical conditions and they’re all things people say they have a hard time believing, even though it’s not saying much when even asexuality is met with skeptical reactions.






  • As testy as this may sound, sadly it seems everything is chalked up to a “cluster B personality disorder”. Maybe this is my sheltered upbringing showing, but this comes off as alien to someone who just treats people based on their character/deeds and assesses interpersonal issues individually as they come on a basis of consistency, not as a part of a larger whole about an individual’s inner mechanisms. I would not abandon the good intentioned, if you ever would like someone to talk to, no matter where you want to do it.



  • You don’t think I apologized? I did, feeling guilty and being encouraged to manifest that in the form of an apology by others I spoke to (as there are different ways to manifest guilt), and the person I apologized to forgave me, out of their own free will, and we have been friends for two years ever since, with no notable conflicts with each other. It was some of the onlookers who said it was invalid, as if they had anymore authority to decide that, and it’s outright resorting to lying now to say I never apologized. Imagine if the apology was formed according to their vision of how it should look, and the person I was apologizing to was the one who didn’t accept it. My friend matters to me, all of him and his alters, and I’d defend him to the death against a hostile mob, and it’s not like I don’t think of that when questioned en masse about him.

    I see how others approach things and am ready to chalk it up to a “they think differently from me” type of matter, so it’s disturbing in a way to see they in turn see so much as how someone phrases their issues (which in my case is cultural, neurodivergent, and a matter of trying to include every point) and decide to chalk their differences up to “she has a disorder” type of matter. Hypothetically, if you ask me, if there was any situation where someone with a distorted mind who believed in their ideas was in a kerfuffle with a non-distorted individual (or more than one such individual) who believed the ends justified the means, easily I’d side against the latter, especially after instances like in the original message which challenges the idea that appeal to emotion or appeal to the masses can point to a good argument (for example, people bring up “empathy” as if we’re supposed to depend on it for everything). Some undertones are just ethical, and nobody can fully make the case someone is “overjustifying” if nobody will even interview both sides.




  • That moment when people attack me in a similar way, and they insist “our judgment is sound and we’re credible”, but then something like this happens to someone else more profoundly. Proof that verdict by the masses isn’t so infallible and that sometimes invalidations are themselves invalid. I’m going to bring this up from now on whenever this happens to remind some of them that their approach to these things is so unspecial that so much as an analogy could challenge it. If even a single aspect of something isn’t open to discussion/verification that doesn’t involve ganging up on them, it renders the plaintiffs’ concerns problematic.









  • Same. Not that I am particularly known for talkativeness (the term “selectively mute” is often used to describe me, which many here think is facade-ish because they don’t realize is more associated with anxiety than autism), but I have Pacific heritage and it shows in what amounts to a Kiwi accent. People either…

    1. Think I’m Australian
    2. Think I’m Scottish
    3. Think I’m a Star Wars fangirl (because some people say they have only heard it from Jango Fett)
    4. Think I’m faking my voice and that this is why it sounds like it does
    5. Know it’s a real voice and what dialect it is but think I’ve ever been to New Zealand

    And then they will proceed to ask me to pronounce silly words for them. Apparently “should” is not pronounced like “shit”.

    Based on someone’s instruction, I once tried a kind of voiceover tech for fixing communication, and that only blew up in its own way, people thinking it felt “ungenuine”.