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  • I think the point is that the income level that could afford a stay at home parent used to be way lower than it is today. My parents bought a house in the hood in the 90s for around $100k in their 20s, got by with 3 kids on a single blue collar salary of less than $40k in the 2000s (like ~$70k today), and are doing great financially today. The oldest of us with no kids struggled to buy any home on a double income in specialized skills with degrees. We grew up qualifying for state benefits and pell grants and somehow us kids who are technically “middle class” are doing so much more for less.


  • Try audiobooks or comic books/graphic novels. I do like reading but sometimes it takes me some push to get back into it. You need to read the book equivalent of a fun comedy movie not the book equivalent of Citizen Kane (I hated that movie btw).

    What I do is I’ll read a short fun book first to build the reading habit, then I’ll transition to the boring/dense book I actually want to get through.




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    14 days ago

    It’s concerning that you refuse to take a moment to entertain what kind of propaganda would actively target you. We already know about the well documented disinformation campaign efforts by the Russians to interfere in foreign elections and destabilize the US:

    Russian disinformation operations in 2016 targeted the political right and left, including Republican Senators Ted Cruz and Marco Rubio, Black Lives Matters activists, and secessionist movements in Texas and California. Bottom line: Russia’s goal was to exacerbate the divisions that already exist in the country to destabilize its democracy.

    Propaganda campaigns often work by simply targeting and amplifying existing beliefs, so if you think all white people are transphobic, for example, they feed you more examples of transphobic white people to further entrench you in that belief, eroding your empathy and trust for fellow Americans.

    To me, reading about PR campaigns against celebrities was a good way of realizing I have also fallen for propaganda many times in the past, particularly when the “internet” suddenly decides a celebrity is universally loved or hated. Now, you can simply call me stupid for falling for it and move on in your moral superiority, or you could take a second to wonder about all the little, seemingly meaningless, things you’ve read on the internet that confirmed your beliefs, or fed you negative emotions like outrage and dejection, and you didn’t bother to dig into them more deeply to understand why is this being shown to me now? Who benefits from my gut reaction to this and who suffers from it?




  • Here’s an honest answer from someone with a chronic illness. In the US, we don’t have real health insurance, so it’s more like you’re paying into a racket for some discounts and peace of mind in case you have a sudden acute condition. If you’re lucky enough to be able to work, you will (hopefully) have an option between the cartels insurance providers. If you’re a betting man, you should pick the lowest premium plan with an HSA, which is essentially what you’re describing, plus you don’t get taxed on the money.

    But people will say, what if you get cancer the first year? You’re screwed anyway, because it’s not like the insurance just goes “oh I’m so sorry you got cancer, don’t you worry, we’ll cover all the costs.” No, of course not. They’ll fight you every step of the way, so at that point you are just better off going to another country and paying for treatment out of pocket.

    But wait, other countries don’t have the same new or experimental treatment options as we do. Well, insurance often doesn’t cover those anyway, so if you are pretty desperate and you truly need those, you either fight for coverage, and I hope you haven’t lost too much of your support system from the isolation of poor health because the stress of doing it alone may kill you regardless, or you pay out of pocket until you go broke.

    There is also sometimes the option of medicaid or going on disability. You may go on medicaid anyway because good luck keeping a job and managing doctors appointments (oh my specialist can’t see me for another 6 months? Yeah put me on the wait list for cancellations), medications, and fighting the aforementioned insurance denials. Medicaid at least is actual state sponsored insurance, but remember Cs get degrees and As get high pay. As don’t typically accept medicaid pay rates unless you live near a big research hospital and can get their attention. Regarding disability, you shouldn’t really consider it unless you’re hitting rock bottom because it takes years to get on it only to have your savings capped to an insulting level that keeps you perpetually impoverished.

    So you’re not really missing anything because it is one big racket.








  • It could be so many things, so hard to give advice. For me, a big part of it was sleep related, and I could only fix it with medication; if you have adhd it may be similar. The medical issues gave me the feeling of I’m painfully bored but my body refuses to do/enjoy anything, and I just want the sweet release of death deep sleep.

    On the other hand, I was also so used to delaying gratification for school/work that I literally didn’t know how to enjoy myself. I think finding the little things that bring you joy and incorporating it into your daily/ weekly/ monthly routine helps a lot. Something like: on Sundays I get to eat pizza or if I reach my short-term goal/milestone, I’ll take myself to the cool place I never get to go to. I started doing this after getting a dog. So literally train yourself to love life like a dog.