It sounds like you are fundamentally trying to embrace healthier habits. I would suggest starting by examining the feeling. Just spend some time thinking about it before acting. Why do I feel motivated to do this? How will I feel while doing it? How will I feel after? Do I gain something from this worth the downsides?
The goal is to make a decision about what you are doing and why instead of just falling into old patterns of behavior with thought.
My perspective. I don’t think anyone has done anything wrong in this situation. You are clearly upset because you are worried about your friend. You are upset because the other person does not feel the concerned for your friend the way you are. That response is understandable, but not rational. Humans be like that.
I think the idea of leaving your family celebration early to spend some time with your friend is a reasonable solution. Nobody gets everything, but nobody is left out.
I understand that my view point is lacking in years of nuance for the situation and could be totally off. I leave you to judge how accurate/useful my perspective is.
I’m inclined to treat the body with what I would call “professionalism”. You are not emotionally attached beyond the desire to do your job well. Though I am not opposed to some people getting a burial at sea. The better for them to be forgotten.
Many times the best way to respond to strong emotions is to just sit with it. Sit and do nothing but experience it. Don’t try to “solve the problem”, don’t shove it down.
If the iGPU is getting the job done, I would leave that alone. You could add a GPU and pass it through to a gaming VM. But that is an entirely different project.
Proxmox is basically a VM management software that runs in a Debian install. You may be able to add it to your current install, but I am not certain about that.
I think people were already making the internet worse. AI just helps them make it worse faster.
Thank you for the summarized information.
Star fleet is essentially a military organization, so that makes sense. I know they do a lot of other non-militaristic stuff, but when war happens they are the ones fighting it.
First based on everything I have ever heard, don’t host your own email server. If you want to learn it that’s fine, but don’t do it for something you actually rely on. My understanding it’s a constant miserable slog to keep it functioning.
Second for getting started, get a cheap used computer and install Linux on it. Also be prepared to wipe it and install something different. Docker may be a good place to go next. You can find lots of guides online, there are tones of apps setup to run with docker you can test out. You could also explore virtual machines. Both have the advantage of making it easier to experiment with different things.
Let’s say that yes, you pointed them to “networking”. The issue is that they have a specific problem and you are pointing to a topic so broad and deep with no specific direction. But you also say “it’s basic”. Well if it truly is basic and they still don’t get it, this would be a clear indication that they need some level of hand holding. Last if your feeling “that is a lot of work, I don’t want to do that” no problem you don’t have to. But in that that situation I would suggest reviewing before commenting: is it going to get the person closer to a solution? Is encouraging to the person? Am I indicating I also have this problem indicating someone else could step in and help multiple people at once? Is it funny? If it’s no on all those, maybe don’t comment.
Sorry my statement was ambiguous. I mean we send those people to prison instead of trying to help them. So then prisons become the those things, but shittier.
I think the important factor is that you have contributed nothing of value to help this person learn. You could have linked to a useful resources, you have suggested Google searches to point in the correct direction. But you basically said “This is easy, RTFM”. Next time at least send them the manual they should read.
Pretty sure those are prison a lot of the time.
More like: Windows + Linux + Android + FreeBSD = ADHD
I think an important detail is likely missing. My experience as a software engineer intern included getting paid well and full benefits as an employee. So legally I was an hourly employee and I think the label of “intern” was to set expectations work/performance/responsibility.
Not a professional, just another meat bag trying to figure his own stuff out. Good job on the introspection. Some times just seeing our own behavior can be difficult. Getting help from a professional is always a good plan. Until then, I would suggest continuing to be mindful of that you do this and make a focused effort to pay attention to the emotions your are feeling when you do these things. Other than that, what are the things you DO want to do? When you you try take these new actions, what are your emotions at these times?
P.S. Being more self aware is a skill. Don’t be surprised if it your not very good at it to start.
Hey get your facts straight. They overclocked it intentionally but poorly. If they weren’t already pushing it to the limit this probably wouldn’t even be an issue.
There will always be problems and money offers solutions to a lot of problems. So even if your problems grow, it’s possible for your solutions to grow faster.