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Cake day: July 1st, 2023
  • dohpaz42@lemmy.worldtoShowerthoughts@lemmy.world•In a way, a gift card is kind of the opposite of a credit cardEnglish
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    2 days ago

    I guess it depends on what you call it. I’ve seen creditors that have autopay features that can draft it from your bank accounts each month. Usually those are for your minimum payment, which usually stretch out your balance for up to 30 years (to maximize interest charges).

    I personally don’t like autopay. It’s an old habit from back when I would overdraft my checking on the regular because I always spent more than I made. Nowadays, I think it’s because I like the responsibility/control of paying my bills manually, and on my terms.

  • dohpaz42@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What do you do to cope?English
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    6 days ago

    Alcohol and drug use aside, I have changed a few things about myself and my routine that have helped me tremendously. Maybe they can help you, or someone else:

    1. Cook for yourself. Find some simple recipes for wholesome meals (i.e. wholesome in the sense that it meets your nutritional requirements, and that you make it yourself most from scratch).
      • I tend to focus on lean meats, high protein, and green veggies.
    2. Set aside one or two hours in your day for just yourself. Play video games, read a book, watch a movie, or take a walk. The idea is to scratch a personal itch you would otherwise deny yourself because of responsibilities or “lack of time”.
    3. Naps. If you can, try to take a nap each day. Try to stay with 20-30 minutes, but recognize like any habit/hobby, it takes time to get it right.
      • I’ve gotten to the point where I’ll set a 30 minute timer and only actually nap for 20 minutes.
    4. Meditation. I usually do this when I nap or go to sleep for the night. I have a pair of Bluetooth headphones that are in a headband (for sleeping), and I’ll cue up an hour long ASMR or guided sleep video. The guided sleep ones are real good because they teach you box breathing, and help keep your mind focused on yourself so it doesn’t wander into the things that keep you awake.
    5. Develop a regular cleaning schedule. Not only will it keep your house clean and tidy, but it allows you to focus your energy into something productive and positive.
      • I use my Notes app to create my to-do lists, and check things off as they get done.
      • If I do something not on my list, I add it and immediately check it off; having a really long list checked off feels real good.
      • I don’t care if I get my list done in a day or week. It’ll get done.
  • dohpaz42@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•At what point is liking childrens toys sad?English
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    8 days ago

    Nothing in what you describe are “children’s toys”. LEGO, Atari, RC cars, etc can be enjoyed by all ages.

    Don’t let your personal insecurities convince you otherwise.

    I’m a 48-yo man who enjoys retro gaming, and I would love to get into LEGO if I had the space for it. And if anybody tried to tell me otherwise, I’d laugh at them.

    I’ve lived too damn long worried about what other people think about me to care anymore. I’m going to live MY life now, and you should live YOURS. Fuck the haters.

    ~Now get off my lawn!~