Similar here. I’ve never had many friends, but, the older I get, the more exhausting I find human interaction (I am an #aspie), I started going on vacations of 4+ weeks on an island where I only interacted at the supermarket, because I had to, decades ago. I very deliberately do not maintain any friendships (and I’m married to a very similar mind, we live apart for years and only “visit” each other every couple of weeks). Whenever someone expresses their exasperation that I could want it that I am seriously pissed off. Just imagine that being forced to interact is as bad as being forced to be alone, ffs.
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Oh, I blame my aspergers for noticing. My conclusion is really just “Maybe don’t flood the community”
It would absolutelybe anxiety-inducing. But if they said so up-front it’d be less bad than my, deliberately keeping-it-vague, example. That said: I don’t want anyone that “just wanted to visit” and “shoot the shit” in my life. I want to plan social encounters at least a week in advance, longer is better.
I blame the aspergers ;-) I noticed that the newest 5 post in this community all were posted within 5 minutes of each other, all by the same user, all with extremely similar structures, the aforementioned “simple question”-style. They feel, to me, highly redundant and not realy like actual questions.
Maybe don’t flood the community with too many “simple question”-style posts at once ;-)
Yep, always was the “outsider”, the “weird one”, though nowadays people are usually more polite and just go “I don’t think A. would be interested”, etc.
“Hey, let’s meet up later today and do something fun!” Instant anxiety for the rest of the day. Plan changes are bad and worse if they are non-specific. There’s a reason I don’t cultivate friendships anymore.
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Linux@lemmy.ml•Thinking of leaving Manjaro after the AUR supply chain attack – Distrochooser recommends SUSE, what's your take?
2·7 days agoI personally go with QubesOS which uses VMs to compartmentalize. It doesn’t reduce the risk of a supply chain attack itself (fedora & debian by default), but if your VMs only contain the bare minimum for a given task the risk of having a compromised package installed is lower than in a full-featured system and any compromise is also contained to that VM.
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Linux@lemmy.ml•Is it worth attempting to make a libre version of QubesOS?
2·7 days agoAbsolutely in favour, the non-free blobs are a persistent thorn in my side. I myself have always been tempted to replace all the fedora and debian templates with alpine or OpenBSD to get smaller VMs (and without systemd), built as many things as unikernels as possible (e.g. the MirageOS firewall), and I’d love if X11 got replaced with Wayland (that one is hard, the X11 modifications are kind of the core of what Qubes provides).
What am I supposed to do?
Learning to write a problem description that is remotely intelligible would be a start. What Distro are you on? What are you trying to accomplish? What have you tried? What error occurs (error messages or what expectations you have that are not met), etc.
Arcanoloth@lemmy.mlto
Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•We try to teach our kids to be honest and not to lie, but I don't think we'd like what we'd get if children were always completely honest.
29·9 days agoWell, I don’t have kids, but I think I’d rather know they don’t care, so I can work on that instead of being annoyed the next time it inevitably happens again…
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Technology@lemmy.world•LIPS Is An Open Source Sip-And-Puff InterfaceEnglish
135·15 days agoMy downvote stays; That is an absolutely atrocious title for it.
Not everyone enjoys the same things and that’s ok. I’d rather rip out my own fingernails than spend any time with “ai chat” shrug
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Open Source@lemmy.ml•We should push other phone OEM's such as Fairphone and Samsung to work with PostmarketOS, GrapheneOS, and Ubuntu Touch
1·2 months agoSure, just not something I am comfortable actively recommending myself.
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Open Source@lemmy.ml•We should push other phone OEM's such as Fairphone and Samsung to work with PostmarketOS, GrapheneOS, and Ubuntu Touch
1·2 months agoI cannot, in good conscience, recommend a project with a lead that is as verbally abusive and utterly unable to appreciate even highly constructive criticism as Micay, technical merits notwithstanding. I am fine when others recommend it though.
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Open Source@lemmy.ml•We should push other phone OEM's such as Fairphone and Samsung to work with PostmarketOS, GrapheneOS, and Ubuntu Touch
22·2 months agoLet’s call a spade a spade: He is a raging asshole with severe clinical paranoia. I’m literally certain that if he saw this post he’d accuse me of being a shill for calyxos and to never fucking again interact with any grapheneos account. Both have happened to me before (Hence I refuse to ever interact with his troupe again, even though I use graphene and agree with the vast majority of its technical decisions; I have also stopped actively recommending it to anyone, the social media experience is simply way too attrocious).
The counting systems were always bullshit. Different people and at different times have wildly different speech tempo. What you can do is trying to find your rhythm by actually saying a word repeatedly as fast as you can without mispronouncing and counting how often you can do that in a minute; That’ll give you a fairly accurate measure you can use.
Arcanoloth@lemmy.mlto
Open Source@lemmy.ml•I built a 90.7kb tool that bypasses Windows screen capture protection. Should I open source it?
3·2 months agoIf you can find a way, so can “the bad guys™”. If you feel charitable towards MS do a “responsible disclosure” and inform them and agree to a release embargo, so they can fix it first; If you don’t, do a “full disclosure” and just publish
=^_^=
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Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•The only time you ever actually "take a poop" is when you fly on an airplane, or ride on a ship.
3·2 months ago/me walks onto the poop deck
:-P


Like I did something pointless that will likely encourage them to pester me about it relentlessly for months because “everyone needs friends”?