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Cake day: November 1st, 2025

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  • Similar here. I’ve never had many friends, but, the older I get, the more exhausting I find human interaction (I am an #aspie), I started going on vacations of 4+ weeks on an island where I only interacted at the supermarket, because I had to, decades ago. I very deliberately do not maintain any friendships (and I’m married to a very similar mind, we live apart for years and only “visit” each other every couple of weeks). Whenever someone expresses their exasperation that I could want it that I am seriously pissed off. Just imagine that being forced to interact is as bad as being forced to be alone, ffs.



  • It would absolutelybe anxiety-inducing. But if they said so up-front it’d be less bad than my, deliberately keeping-it-vague, example. That said: I don’t want anyone that “just wanted to visit” and “shoot the shit” in my life. I want to plan social encounters at least a week in advance, longer is better.







  • Absolutely in favour, the non-free blobs are a persistent thorn in my side. I myself have always been tempted to replace all the fedora and debian templates with alpine or OpenBSD to get smaller VMs (and without systemd), built as many things as unikernels as possible (e.g. the MirageOS firewall), and I’d love if X11 got replaced with Wayland (that one is hard, the X11 modifications are kind of the core of what Qubes provides).









  • The counting systems were always bullshit. Different people and at different times have wildly different speech tempo. What you can do is trying to find your rhythm by actually saying a word repeatedly as fast as you can without mispronouncing and counting how often you can do that in a minute; That’ll give you a fairly accurate measure you can use.