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Cake day: December 24th, 2025

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  • Depends on you local job hunting culture and your own work social networks.

    If you are a person that has many work related connections and you have a large offline network, you could probably get a job through that way easier. But if you are not big on maintaining social networks like that and you don’t have many connections, then you probably will have a hard time finding jobs otherwise.

    There is a middle ground where you open a LinkedIn account with none of your real information. You use it to find jobs and every job you want to apply to you go to the site of the actual company and apply through an email or whatever form they might have on their website with your actual resume. The disadvantage there is that some companies expect you to have a LinkedIn and might actually skip your resume if you don’t, also it is more work, and one actual advantage of LinkedIn is that you can keep a large work social network without having to maintain anything as you can always dm an old connection and it wouldn’t be as weird as calling them up.

    Personally, I take the privacy L and have a real LinkedIn profile.




  • My personal journey:

    • arch is annoying to maintain and whil it is mostly stable, you do get some breaking updates here and there. It’s not a bad choice, it just doesn’t makeuch sense for a headless server.
    • Ubuntu server, just why? Works fine but why?
    • a not headless fedora, worked fine but still annoyed me sometimes
    • proxmox (debian based) works great, annoyed me to manage vm resources.
    • headless debian. Just works, I rarely if ever encounter OS issues. The only downside is that not everything can be found in the debian repos, but there is almost always an option to add a repo for whatever you want.

    My setup is mostly dockers so keep that in mind.

    But really, if something works for you go with it. If you are looking to change, I would recommend debian.









  • My setup is easy and reliable:

    Bash script that runs restic to backup to backblaze with a 90 day retention snapshot policy and a systemd service + timer.

    It runs everyday, everything is backedup to b2, and I don’t need to bother with it.

    Pros:

    • easy
    • quick
    • reliable
    • private (restic encrypts before sending)
    • don’t need to worry about multiple backups as backblaze does it for me (3-2-1 system)

    Cons:

    • costs (very little) money (backblaze is basically the cheapest provider)
    • long restore time as it would be slow to download
    • restore costs (pay per gb downloaded)



  • It will always be hard and mentally tasking, but I have something that did work for me (aside from proper professional help in the form of meds, therapy and hard work)

    I listen to the “Mark narrations” podcast/yt channel, which is a reddit reading channel (mostly AITA and relationshipadvice) Basically hundreds of hours of socially awkward/complicated/ambiguous situations with a mostly representative(of reddit people, not every society ofc) comments dissecting the situation and giving advice or opinions on its moral and social aspects.

    I basically listen to it to pass the time (driving, washing dishes, etc) and as the story is narrated I dissect it and form my own opinion on it. When the story is done and the comments are narrated I compare my own views to the ones from the comments and from Mark and anytime my understanding or views differ from the comments I go over why and how and learn from it (honestly it can sometimes be that the lesson is “people are crazy and I’m the one who is right”)

    I can 100% say that doing this has improved my social abilities like crazy, it took a lot of time but it was fun so I wouldn’t say that it took a lot of effort.

    Basically my idea was that if I don’t naturally understand how and why people act the way they do, I can learn it logically just like any other topic.

    While a lot of things have improved my social abilities and I do have high functioning AuDHD which makes it not as complicated as other might have it. I can say that after 1 year of doing it basically any time I needed something to keep my mind busy, it made a huge difference in how new people perceive me (used to be “weird”, “awkward”, “uncomfortable”, “rude”) and how well I handle social situations, and they are much less mentally draining.