Hi, I saw some other AMAs on here, so I hope it’s ok to post one too, otherwise I’ll gladly remove it.

I’m a 23yo trans woman and I have Hypersexuality, formerly known as nymphomania. I’m attempting to get an 6C72 Diagnosis under the ICD-11, although it’s unlikely I’ll get one soon.

Hypersexuality combines a high sex drive with a compulsive behavior disorder (to make it clear: high sex drives alone does NOT equal hypersexuality). Due to this, a lot of my life revolves around sex and intimacy. As it’s a disorder, there is also a certain level of distress that comes from it.

Feel free to Ask Me Anything! No questions are off limits! I’ll try to answer everything as soon as possible

  • weird_alt@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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    20 days ago

    No problem.

    Regarding the polycule: I’m super happy to have found a bunch of people that are able to treat relationships in a very adult way. Never had drama in 2 years but am in 4 very loving relationships.

    Now, I’m also lucky to be in a situation where I can be openly trans very safely. I have a lot of people that are supportive and was never in any dangerous situation because of it.

    Funnily enough, it never occurred to me that I have a high sex drive until I got into my first relationships by the age of 20. I always thought “Hey, many people I know masturbate 3-4 times a day, once a day seems pretty normal”. What I didn’t consider was that they did it 10 minutes each time, while I did so for 4-6 hours. It’s good that this is reduced now by testosterone blockers. But now all my physical need has fully transformed in a need for sex, which can make it a bit more difficult.

    I don’t ever actually cum during sex (difficult because of past trauma), only through masturbation. But I don’t actually feel like I need it, the sex alone feels way nicer than an orgasm ever did

    • ILikeBigTitsAndICannotLie@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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      20 days ago

      That’s great to hear.

      I know the feeling where the physical need to cum and the emotional need for sex which is often separate.

      And yes, I find it difficult to masturbate for less then 2 hours as I just don’t want to stop. But I managed to get my pre work session down to 90 minutes and my lunch wank to around an hour. Although recently I started seeing someone for quickies at lunch time which is nice.

      Evening faps often end up very long still if there is no sex. But I manage.

      How does one find polycules without drama? I’ve never been involved in the drama but there have always been people being difficult with each other which just puts me off.

      • weird_alt@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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        20 days ago

        Very good question. I don’t really understand how I managed to find these great people, but I guess what’s important is to look for people that are independent and don’t rely on others for their daily life. Also ones that are mature and can talk about problems to solve them, especially relationship issues

      • weird_alt@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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        20 days ago

        Possibly? Depends on what you feel your body really needs. If it’s just for fun and because you have time and not because you feel you desperately need it it’s probably not a problem

        • Neu@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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          20 days ago

          I guess when I don’t have time I do go faster, but I still do it and feel some frustration that I have to be quick about it.