Couldn’t stop her if she wanted to because she’s her own person and decides what she wants to do with her own body, but that would be a deal breaker for me personally

My husband has said before I could if I wanted to. I don’t really see why it would be a big deal, to be honest.

I do not decide the actions of others, I only decide my response.

Allow? Dangerous phrasing there lol.

Which, I get it, there is a degree of permission needed because for some people, sharing nudity or outright sexual content with outsiders is a violation of the relationship. And, in reality, if there’s not an agreement on doing something like that, it’s going to drive a wedge in the relationship, so some kind of compromise is necessary, even if it isn’t outright “permission”. I just don’t think in terms of another adult needing me to allow them to do something unless it directly interferes in my life.

That being said, my objection wouldn’t be because of the nudity or sexualized content. It would be the risks involved in how data and images can be weaponized now. I have been damn near unreasonable about pictures of me even being taken, much less put online. I’ve cut ties with people over it, including a fight to keep it from happening. I don’t fucking play with it.

The way things are going, those pictures my hypothetical partner puts out there can turn into a nightmare, even if their face isn’t in them. Facial recognition isn’t the only thing that can be done with the kind of computer power out there now.

So, I would absolutely flip shit over it. I might agree eventually if they didn’t do any of the photography at home, but it would bother the hell out of me even then.

But it wouldn’t be about the nature of the content. That’s not my business, even with my wife, as long as it doesn’t otherwise violate our agreements as a couple. And I can’t see how doing it via a company like that would. I’m not aware of everything involved though.

It isn’t about “allow,” but more about “accept.” I have had physical and romantic relationships with people that engage in sex work. In my experience, it depends on the level of commitment and the “extent” of their sex work. My feelings aren’t meant to condemn them, nor are they reason to condemn me.

To answer your question in the most exact way, I wouldn’t inherently have an issue with entering a monogamous relationship with a woman who posts content to onlyfans. If the content was solo and fan interaction was kept digital, I wouldn’t find this problematic. However, if the content involved others or meeting fans in person, then I wouldn’t be able to accept that within a monogamous dynamic. Given the second scenario, I likely would prefer a platonic relationship overall.

“Allow”?

That’s not how healthy people think

Like some other folks in this thread I also don’t like the phrasing of the question. A relationship doesn’t put you in a position to decide what another person is allowed to do. A relationship is about what you both can agree and commit on that fulfills / serves everyones needs.

I dont care if my partners are doing sex work, although I might worry for their safety, depending on their practice. For Onlyfans specifically I’d want to make sure that they are fine with the consequences of getting doxxed / people finding out about it. Sadly there’s still a lot of stigma about doing porn in society and I think you shouldn’t take that decision lightly. On the other hand, fuck society, do what thou wilt! :D

What would be a problem for me is what I currently see as exploitative behavior in the context of OF. Leaning into and furthering the parasocial relationship with the subscribers to the point that people spend more than they can afford or that they neglect relationships in their offline life. I understand that there is a lot of money in this, and I’d be open to discuss and understand their side of view, but if I would come to the conclusion that they’re putting their profit above the harm that they’re causing, that might be a deal breaker for me. But I also think that you can absolutely do OF while respecting your audience and minimize potential harm.