Their choices are not your responsibility.

Their choices are not dependent on your choices.

You choose your own actions. You don’t control theirs.

Fear is just a feeling, don’t let it control you or stop you. Face it. Deal with it. Don’t listen to it.

Mine tells me I’m asleep when I’m wide awake reading or watching movies. I wouldn’t trust it too much.

Awesome! Are you using old yarn for the warp thread (I always figured warp had to be sturdier than regular yarn), or is it two different projects?

Are you going for some type of motif, colour gradients or pure chaos?

I’m excited-to-weave-my-own-rug-old.

Luckily it pairs well with being excited-to-weave-my-own-rug-poor.

You can absolutely get excited about a soft luxurious rug curling between your toes and keeping you warm and silent on a cold nights excursion to the bathroom, compared to the wide-awakening shock of a cold floor or even an uninviting prickly gross old rug. Decoration is a bonus.

I much prefer speeding things up than slowing them down, especially talky stuff like lectures and video essays… But it’s an interesting question.

Maybe some fast paced comedies? Either the ones that have like 6+ jokes/minute or have a lot of visual gags or stuff happening in the background (for example Arrested Development, 30 Rock, Community and Parks & Rec).

If you slow them down you might have time to notice, enjoy and appreciate more of the jokes before they move on to the next.

Probably more efficient than rewatching to catch new stuff, but I don’t know how the jokes will land slowed down.

At least watch without subtitles so they aren’t spoiled before they’re played out, if you’re able.

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Cheap trash earplugs at concerts.

Nowadays I have a good pair that I bring with me, but if the foamy yellow ones are the only ones available I’ll buy them and within minutes pull them out to be able to hear anything except the person behind me butchering the lyrics straight into my ear.

This way I can hear the music at the concert, and my worsening tinnitus the rest of my life. Win win.

I’ve never heard a woman complain or be confused about not being asked out by strangers.

It seems like your sources are a fair step into the manosphere, and you and your sons would have a lot to gain by distancing yourself from that kind of influence. Nothing is as unattractive as bitterness, and you are sounding dangerously close to bitter here, and your attitude will influence your sons approach to life and relationships.

I want to see my planted apple tree bear fruit for the first time (it’s looking good this year so far!), and then I want to try splicing in a branch of my neighbours cherry tree, and then I want to keep building gradually to have a mutant tree with all kinds of fruit throughout the season. I’ll be the creator of my own Tree of Life.

Small goals, small joys, small triumphs - it’s what’ll make my life grand, I believe.

This may sound silly, but it happens to me more often than not that I forget the simplest solution when I wake up from pain: Did you take pain relief medication and wait 30-60 min before giving up on sleep?

I know this is old, but I liked pondering the question because I made me sappy as heck, so I’ll share it with you:

Music is like a cheat-code to life, especially my internal life. The music I listen to determines my emotions, my energy level, my focus and drive, and what activities I want to do. Without music playing I’m like an empty shell. With music I recognise my existence.

I am not musical myself and I know nothing of production or quality, only what I enjoy and how it makes me feel. I was born to be an audience, and that’s a huge part of who I am and how I operate daily.

For a layperson I have a very good knowledge of my country’s laws, but there are more laws I don’t know than I do know, so I can’t really answer this question. The laws I know I understand, and thus they seem reasonable enough for me.

How they are enforced though… With high burden of proof comes low rates of convictions, for better and worse. I’m privileged enough that the system mostly works in my favour so can’t really speak on that either, as I lack nuanced experiences.

Personally I’m more happy to not have been sentenced for any of my own potential infractions, than I am pissed to have my offenders/attackers never even questioned by police. I can get justice in other ways than through criminal law anyway.

Spiders.

They protect my plants from gnats and hide out during the day to not disturb or frighten me. Best roommates I’ve ever had.

Of course. I was focusing on the doing or recieving part and completely missed the second part: Are you a botherer and bothered OF/BY or ABOUT god?

It can be either one, so I’d say it depends on how religious and/or deranged the speaker is. Like you said - most would say it’s about god, while I was deranged enough to interpret it as being a direct communication with a god.

Hmm. Probably no one.

Small amounts are weird to need “no questions asked” and large amounts are too large to give away “no questions asked”. Partly for me financially, but mostly because there is a not insignificant risk of overdose if you give out large sums of money to someone being cagey about why they need it.

If they can’t tell me what a significant amount of money is for, it’s probably because it’s something I don’t want my money to go to, so I’m not inclined to agree under those premises.

At the least I would need a very good reason for why I can’t ask questions (“I’m preparing to vacation as a fugitive, and don’t want you to have to testify”), but by then there is no longer no questions asked…

Everyone I would give my money to would give that reason unprompted so I wouldn’t have to ask.

Except kids, they might ask just to see if it works, and then I would ask to know what for.

I don’t think I’ve ever been asked to give away something without being offered a reason, actually…

It depends on if the subject of the sentence (the person) is doing the thing (being active) or having the thing done to them (being passive). Think like this:

A helper (help-ER) is someone who is helping/doing the help. A caller (call-ER) is calling someone else. A botherer (bother-ER) is someone who is doing the bothering.

Someone who is recieving bother is being bothered (bother-ED), one who is getting help is being helped (help-ED), or getting calls is being called (call-ED).

God-botherer is someone who is god-bothering (bothering god). God-bothered is someone being bothered by god.

Sleep mask covering my eyes. My chambers may be flooded with light to chase away the ghouls of darkness, yet not a hint of light will reach my vision to disturb my slumber.

Also the tightness feels kinda comforting, and I’ve started to associate it with good sleep and fall asleep faster now because of it

Ps. And no energy drink, coffee or caffeinated or sugary soda past 16.

We can’t fix other peoples issues for them.

We can choose to support them if they are actively trying to fix their own issues.

We can also decide that even though they are trying the impact is too big on us and distance ourselves.

But if they aren’t actually trying to better themselves there is nothing we can do except protect ourselves.

Your sister needs to look into co-dependence and trauma-bonding (if not in this case then for future reference), and focus on becoming emotionally independent rather than confusing nurturing with doormat. She can only fix her own issues, not her friends. And learn that not every friend is worth the title.