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  • kablez@lemmy.worldtoAutism@lemmy.worldOh nooooo
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    15 days ago

    I became so good at masking because of coming from a environment where my needs weren’t met and my true self wasn’t safe to exist. I was often more concerned about making sure my parents didn’t pop off that I developed an unhealthy way of looking at the world where I put the needs of others above myself - to the point of complete self destruction in front of people who cared about me.

    Over the years I finally realised what was going on, but it took being with another person who also has autism and C-PTSD to observe the behaviours in one another and finally take control. In some ways it is a little tragic we both went through so much hardship while having our basic needs ignored from a young age, but in another way I’m so grateful for the miracle of having found a person who perfectly fits my broken parts so we can guide each other through it with understanding and experience.

    I regret the times I’ve treated others unfairly because of the pressures of life and not having the resources or wisdom to do things properly. I’m doing my best now to make amends for my past mistakes, heal myself and move into the future with healthy boundaries. I’ve been hurt in ways I can’t even begin to explain, I require a certain amount of medication just to function but I’m still here and I feel optimistic for the future. It’s going to be hard work to rebuild the things I’ve lost, but I’m motivated to do good for myself and for the new family I’m building.




  • I have been thinking this for some time, why not just have a certified burner phone or tablet and then a free phone as your main?

    Realistically most of us have to install shitty insecure apps to survive in this modern world, but that doesn’t mean all our personal data and stuff has to be on the same device.

    For the cost of one brand new top model phone, you could probably get a low-mid certified device and a decent Fairphone or equivcalent.









  • I wish it were merely that. I think Y Combinator, and the culture it promotes, is part of a much deeper problem in the IT industry: digital colonisation (or astroturfing, if you will). Vast amounts of capital are used to blitzkrieg entire markets, not to build better services but to erase alternatives and own the only platform.

    That’s how companies like Uber Eats gained dominance. They didn’t become market leaders by being better, they swung enormous capital at every problem, undercut local business until they were driven out, then jacked up prices and degraded service once competition was gone. Uber Eats is just one example of this pattern.

    This astroturfing phenomenon has spread everywhere: business directories, event planning, community platforms, even the ways people in a local area connect and share prosperity. What looks like “innovation” is often just foreign investors capital overwhelming local ecosystems that were working just fine.

    Google is the clearest case study. They gave us genuinely useful tools, Gmail, Maps, Android, and wrapped it all in “Don’t be evil.” Once everyone was locked in, the mask was removed. Surveillance, enclosure, rent-seeking, supporting a fascist government regime. The evil didn’t suddenly appear, it was always there. That’s where the initial capital came from in the first place!

    Y Combinator didn’t invent this, but it systematized it: scale first, destroy competition, extract later. The startup business model of tech bros seeking capital was exported overseas and countless idiots today try to ape it at fake tech conferences that are about seeking investor funding, not innovation or a brighter future. The damage isn’t just economic, it’s cultural and social, and it hollowed out entire local and digital communities in the process.