I have to agree with this. I’m more inclined to learn how to do something myself before calling a service person. I don’t trust people to do shit right. And if I find it’s above my pay grade, then maybe I’ll have learned enough in looking into it to know whether or not I’m getting screwed over.

Please teach me this zen, because holy hell toddler tantrums are the worst! They’ve made dealing with morons at work much easier.

I think arriving to the ability to not let this trigger you requires a lot of little decisions and changes. Like accepting that people will fail or suck at their job, being able to roll with shit, having alternate/backup plans… Like if the cable guy was coming today, then I’d have shit planned to do around the house and I wouldn’t plan anything else that day. I’d game, clean, do chores, do outside projects, change the car oil, whatever needs to be done nearby that I can take a break from when they finally show up. Small businesses I’d probably call in the morning and verify they’re showing up for sure that day.

I guess it’s a combination of assuming the worst case scenario and focusing on what you can control. (“Plan fo the worst, hope for the best”) So in the case of the shitty co worker, I’d ask them to tone it down. If they won’t, then what can I do? Can I move elsewhere? If I can’t I might ask the supervisor if they can get my desk moved. Of course they are going to do the easier job of telling Jack wagon to stfu but now it’s coming from the supervisor. I can control the coworker, but I can control myself, I can try to manipulate the situation. There might be other options depending on the situation like putting in earbuds and refraining from clubbing them like a baby seal.

But yeah, I agree. I think a person yells when they think they have no power over the situation. I grew up being yelled at all the time it’s very easy for me to fall into that trap too and I understand how hard it is to not resort to that when I’m frustrated or overwhelmed. It gets 100x worse when I’m tired.

You can usually shut off the rgb lighting all together.

Wishful thinking would be if the killer struck again while Luigi was in jail.

Find things that make you happy. Enjoy being happy. Having someone in your life is great, but you need to learn to be happy just being by yourself too. Learn to go do things alone. Enjoy life as it is. Having a partner isn’t the core of life.

Additionally, By being happy you’ll probably be more attractive. Nobody wants to be around someone miserable.

Working fast food jobs versus working a professional job. There’s a reason people work in fast food whether that be age, felony status, crap work history, education status (not always), or they are just shitty people.

There is a general unprofessional and childish mentality working at those places that I thought was normal when I worked them. When I moved into corporate culture it was difficult for me for like 3-4 years and it took a long time for me to understand that it’s a different culture. You don’t say off color shit or fuck around. Which I am okay with. I don’t have to deal with casual sexual harassment, childish quitting displays, abuse, high school behavior, etc.

There is still some gossip but it’s not hard to isolate yourself from it and people who do that shit typically don’t last that long.

I used to has Xmas after becoming an adult because what it stood for, for me, was a bunch of shit : capitalism, using a fake demi god to discipline your kids, and a zombie demi god it’s supposed to be dedicated to when we decorate trees which come from the religions that were stomped into hiding.

But I started to realize that winter fucking sucks. It’s depressing as fuck. It made me realize that we need holidays in the winter to help us get through it. There is joy in company if you can look past minor shit and flaws of family, and if you can’t then there is the company of friends. Holidays are a reminder that we thrive best in communities and it’s a chance to reconnect.

So whether you decide to celebrate that gathering by decorating a plastic tree or by having a hedonistic feast or even an orgy, do something for the holidays that mean something to you.

One problem I’ve been having with ebay lately is that I’ve ordered items and they’re coming drop shipped from Amazon or Walmart.

They’re always sellers with ratings in the upper 90s and with like 1000ish or less reviews. A lot of times they list is as only having 1 or 2 left in stock. I’ve been having some luck going into the reviews and seeing people say “came in an Amazon box” to avoid them.

It’s one thing to wholesale stuff and resell it, it’s another to just drop ship it from Amazon and Walmart. Been ordering on ebay for many years and I’ve never seen this before.

Fright Krew before I canned Netflix

Good for you.

I agree, but sometimes you just need some cheap shit. I’d rather pay 2$ for stickers for my kids than the same ones for 9$ on amazon.

I would never buy anything electronic from them for that reason.

I’ve been going to Walmart more because of all the Chinese sellers. I fine with it if it’s not on Temu for cheaper and if they disclose it’s going to take three weeks to ship. It pisses me off to no end when they indicate it’s going to take 3 or 4 days to get to me and then I check the tracking a couple days later to see a Chinese mail tracking number.

So try Walmart, if you want stateside stuff then use the retailer filter and select “Walmart.”

Another alternative, if it’s likely made in China or cheap, then check Temu. I’ve found things all over Etsy which is just crap bought from Temu and posted on there for double the price. And I mean they get the package, repackage it, and send it to you. No alterations or anything.

You can also look at ordering directly from manufacturers. Sometimes you’ll get deals.

This right here! If you are looking at something on amazon go to Ali or Temu.

I used to have that fear when I was a kid living with family and my mom in particular was very nosey. I understand a nosey parent to make sure you kid isn’t into drugs, but she went way beyond that. She was also paranoid so she was convinced I was doing fucked up shit without any evidence.

It took me a long time to get over that. I did have a friend who was rooting through a couple of my things and we stopped being friends not long after. As far as I know, no one else has gone through my stuff.

The only time I’ve ever gone through anybody else’s stuff is to look through my mom’s drawers for things she stole and my ex’s phone after many years and other evidence that he was fucking around behind my back and I wanted to know for sure that he was. I hated doing it in both cases because I didn’t like it being done to me but felt that was the last option I had.

So yeah, with psycho family, you have every right to feel that way. Just know that isn’t normal and that most people won’t do that.

Work hard and do your best at work and you’ll go places.

Yeah I got moved around several times in the office. That’s about it.

Just adding for op that crucial has some drives on sale right now.

I think that unless you get some with a strap that goes under your foot that’s attached to the bottom of the leggings or modify it to have some, that you will always have that crease because you’re moving around.

Here’s an example https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=544598002&vid=1&tid=onpl000102&kwid=1&ap=7&gad_source=1&gclsrc=aw.ds#pdp-page-content

I used to use them. They’re cheapest if you order directly from their website in bulk. And subscribe to their emails. I think around January and February they usually have like 10 for 120$ or something.