There’s no such thing as sex good enough to deal with a partner that is incompatible with yourself.

You don’t spend all day, or even the bulk of your time having sex with them. The bulk of the time you’re having a relationship and that relationship takes work and at least some compatibility between your personalities and goals. Especially when bills, sickness, and kids come into the picture.

That is if we’re talking about a long term commitment.

Short term?

Yeah, sex can make up for a lot. I dated a girl in 2000 who was… By far the best at sex and she was down for damn near everything. My 30th birthday present from her is still something I daydream about today 25 years later. Unfortunately, she had a lot of issues and our relationship ended after 6 months. We hooked up about a year later for about a month and she was trying to make us work, but my feelings for her just did not develop so we broke up again. We’re actually still friends now 25 years later. She got over her issues and has been married to a man that has treated her very well for the past 15 years.

Mrs CanopyFlyer (56F) and I (55m) have been together 21 years and married for 20. We have two kids. She and I come from very different backgrounds. She’s an east coast born highly educated (MD/PhD) lady that was the top of her class at Yale. I’m a mid-west born barely educated redneck that she’s somehow tamed and taught to eat veggies and salad. Also her parents absolutely loathe me, even to this day. What made our relationship is our ability to sit and talk to each other. We have very similar views on politics, religion, and many other things. We’re also both tend toward being rational and open minded. We are an absolute unit when we have to come together to solve an issue and my god have we had our fair share of those.

I absolutely have her back and I know for a fact that she has mine, empirically many times over. That’s the basis for a long term relationship.

Dacor Stove

In 2006 my wife and I moved into a new house and bought a Dacor RSD30S stove.

Dacor made parts for the thing for TWO YEARS and that’s it. I owned it for 12 years and it went through three igniters and the door handle broke. The first igniter broke within 18 months and I was able to replace it with a new one. The second one went out at around 5 years and the part was already discontinued. Fortunately, the parts guy I was ordering from was very familiar with Dacor and said that the igniter from the new model would work, the bracket would just need to be drilled to mount it. It took me all of 5 minutes. The third one went out and I was screwed. So I spent about 2 years manually igniting my “modern” duel fuel range. Even when it did work, Dacor used one igniter coil for all four igniters. If they were not all perfectly clean the current would only go to one with the least impedance and the rest wouldn’t work.

I was never able to fix the broken handle.

Dacor… Never again.

Contrast that with the stove I replaced the Dacor with, a Wolf DF304. Granted, we’re talking about a very high end range vs a middle of the road POS. However, Wolf has not changed the design of the DF304 in 25 years. I actually bought my Wolf 2nd hand, hence why I could afford it. It was 8 years old when I bought it. Wolf not only still has all the parts for it in stock, the stove is still in production. It currently is 14 years old and works like new, compared to the Dacor being 12 years old and completely clapped out. Also Wolf uses independent coils for each igniter, so the current doesn’t flow to the igniter with the least impedance like the Dacor.

I know this sounds like a case of “you get what you paid for”, but that Dacor new was $2500, so not exactly cheap.

And don’t even get me started on General Electric appliances…

Back in 2000 I had a close skydiving buddy. He was an excellent competitive pool player and taught me how to play and I even went on to win a few tournaments.

Our friendship came to an end when my girlfriend broke up with me and he was in bed with her the very next day.

Out of curiosity I tried looking up his name about a year ago. Turns out he was living with a woman down in Tampa, Fl. She had lost a child previously and was dealing with major psychological issues… He came home to find she had committed suicide… And he killed himself because of it. This all happened way back in 2013. So he’s been dead a long time.

One of mine is:

ITHertzWhenIP

Be it ever so humble, there is no place like 127.0.0.1.

The technology is way too resource intensive for the benefit it gives. By resource, I mean environmental and technological. Have you seen the prices of DDR5 RAM? Microsoft is actually working to bring TMI 1 back online. TMI = Three Mile Island as in a full sized nuclear reactor that has been retired from service since 2019. The only reason why they are not bringing TMI2 back online is because IF F$%KING MELTED DOWN IN 1979.

Add to that Micron exited the consumer market to provide memory to the AI market only… What the actual F#$k?

Now the bubble has formed and the people that shoved tens of billions into it are trying to fill that bubble by any means necessary. Which means the entire population of this country are constantly bombarded by it for purposes it is ill suited to.

When, not if, this bubble pops it’s going to be a wild ride.

You need to watch this video…

The sad thing is a lot of Wolf products in the home are used as show pieces. I know one person that has the 60" duel fuel range, which is a $15,000 piece of equipment (mine is the DF304, which is 30" wide) and she buys packaged dinners from Trader Joes almost exclusively. She’s been in her house for 10 years and the stove looks like it just came out of the show room. Absolutely insane, I’d love to have that much cooking area, unfortunately my kitchen isn’t that large.

Not me, I use the ever living f#$k out of that stove. That’s one of the reasons I bought it in the first place. I clapped out a Dacor in less than 5 years. Not that Dacor’s are all that good (avoid at all costs). Wolf products are designed to live 20 years in a commercial kitchen. Mine gets used a lot, but there’s no way I’m using as much as a commercial kitchen would.

You’ll have to pry my Wolf duel fuel range from my cold dead fingers…

With that said, if I had it to do over again I would definitely go with an induction stove. I have a high quality hood with a very strong fan and make sure it is running any time I use the cook top.

I didn’t know about him teaching his daughter that… Must have missed that video or had already unsubscribed.

Definitely an immediately unsubscribe reason.

Bourbon Moth

Loved to watch his videos as he made woodworking accessible. He also does really good work.

Then one day he built an epoxy river table then promptly blew it up… Literally blew it up… Which spread all that epoxy all over the place in a forested area. I still watched, but next he did a video on rags catching fire and it was all obviously staged. That was it for me, I unsubscribed then told Youtube to never suggest his videos again.

AVE

Funny enough it was AVE that exposed Bourbon Moth on his BS regarding the towels combusting. However, shortly after that whole thing AVE just really went downhill. Instead of being informative and amusing, his videos just turned into the narcissist’s playbook for look at me! Haven’t watched one of his videos since. Which is a shame, because his earlier videos were really interesting.

It was “Mom” and “Dad”.

The one time I called my Mom by her first name was when we worked at a nursery/garden center together. A customer asked me a question and my Mom was close by working on something and I didn’t want to call her “Mom” in front of the customer.

It was one of the most awkward things I’ve ever done. My Mom ended up not caring, she understood.

I’ll just say it… She was nuts. The sex was OK, but not good enough to deal with crazy. Fortunately, she was not the smartest and the games she attempted to play were all things I had seen before and she had the subtly of a brick. So it was pretty easy to avoid her traps. That probably lead to what happened that night. I wasn’t fulfilling her supply needs and wanted to find an easier target. At least it has made for a good story 22 years later.

Also, It all worked out in the end. About 6 months after the above happened I met the future Mrs. CanopyFlyer. We’ve been married 20 years now and have two kids.

Just for kicks, after posting above I looked up Pool girl on Facebook, she has a fairly unique name. She lives in Boston now, the event above took place in Cincinnati and she is apparently still single 22 years later. At least her profile does not show anyone but her. She is 4 years younger than me so that puts her at 51 single and no family.

I get people not wanting kids. I didn’t until I met Mrs. Canopyflyer so no shade on Pool girl on that, but I cannot imagine still being alone at my age. With that said, I do have a friend that is my age that lost her husband to a heart attack this year. That’s been pretty devastating and I feel so badly for her.

I have two kids.

Oldest is a figure/ synchronized figure skater

Youngest is a hockey player.

Believe me, hockey is a LOT more civilized than figure skating and especially Synchro.

Had actually been dating this girl for about a month. It was 4th or 5th date and she wanted to go play pool. Which was fine with me as at the time I loved to play pool and had my own cue. So I took her to one of my favorite pool places where we could rent a table by the hour.

We had been there about an hour and stopped to get some food. The place had a bar with food and TV’s all over the place.

We sat down and started eating and talking. Nothing serious, just chatting between bites.

Then she drops this: “You’re one of the weirdest guys I’ve ever met.”

Somewhat shocked I asked why… Her response was that I wasn’t watching the football game playing on all the TV’s.

I took a moment and looked around and sure enough most, if not all the guys in the room were glued to the TV… I looked at the game playing, saw a football game, shrugged and stated that I’ve never been much of a sports fan.

That ended the relationship. We talked a couple more times after that, but we never went on another date. She called me about a month later complaining that some guy she met in a bar won’t return her phone calls. That was the last time I ever spoke to her.

I still don’t watch football, baseball, soccer or basketball. I’m a skydiver, why would I care about some game that only requires one ball?

If you like Star Trek:

DC Fontana

I love puns and word play.

Puns are one of the few forms of humor that doesn’t have a target. No one is ever the butt of a pun and that is what I like about them.

"People say you forgive for yourself in order to move on. Personally it has never really clicked for me, how to forgive someone who hasn’t asked it or changed. "

This is a good point.

In this case the term “forgive” is almost, but not quite a misnomer. View it more as moving past the trauma and not letting it affect you in the future, irrespective of understanding the perpetrator’s behavior. This usually involves leaving them behind and ending all contact with them. Most people that behave in such a way to cause others trauma will never change. The only thing you can do is move past them and go on with your life.

I hope that makes sense.

Zestos and Polly’s Freeze and that’s about it.

I miss their malts, they were always the best.

AHEM!