Here recently it seems like everything just gets under my skin so quickly and easily. It’s not that I get mad and take it out on others, it’s just the fact that I’m constantly annoyed and stressed. Something as simple as the dogs tracking some mud through the house will just ruin my mood. I know some people who would just laugh it off and clean it up. Meanwhile I’ll get pissed that I didn’t wipe their feet and be mad the entire time I’m cleaning it up. This has nothing to do with the dogs, it just an example. Any number of seemingly insignificant things can trigger me like that. Like forgetting something at the store and having to go back. I would love to be able to go, “well that sucks” and just get over it.
I don’t think I have the emotional range to “get angry” the way most people describe it (as some overcoming urge). It’s an alien concept to me. For me, anger is a quiet loosening of my moral obligation towards someone, a re-tallying of social contracts, something done consciously and with purpose.
If I should appear angry, but just “go with the flow” instead, it doesn’t mean I’m not angry – it means I no longer feel the need to be honest with you about my thoughts or feelings. I’ve found that by and large, people fail to notice the difference.
So if it is any consolation, at least some of us who appear easygoing are actually furious internally.