I’m 15 weeks and 1 day pregnant today. I’m also young (18), so this wasn’t planned or expected. When my boyfriend’s parents found out, they asked for a paternity test. On my parents’ advice, I agreed to it. Even though I have nothing to hide, it still felt humiliating.
Don’t take offense to it. It’s just due diligence like getting a home inspector before you commit to a mortgage.
For heavy duty long term commitment to something like raising a child, “Just trust me bro” doesn’t quite meet the gravity of the situation and moreso when there isn’t already a formalized relationship like a marriage.
Also, get the fucking home inspection. Don’t ask me how I know.
This is me NOT asking how you know, hoping you’ll tell an interesting story anyway.
Due Diligence is exactly it. First time my GF told me she was pregnant, I wanted to do the lightweight version of at least asking the question just to make sure the situation wasn’t THAT complex. I summoned language diplomatic enough for Netanyahu to raise a palestinian flag and asked her, just for the record, to explicitly state that I was the father, doing my best to not make it sound like an accusation. Luckily she found it funny.
This is the answer.
Getting the inspector to take a look isn’t an accusation, it’s just to confirm that everything is as it seems.