Exhaust comes from pretending, so be yourself whether that is being stupidity positive or gravely negative. That won’t demand much effort.
Although, being gravely negative comes with its own additional issues like worrying about possible negative future that in 99% of cases does not happen. We have one overly negative person in the family and it is wearing them down, all is bad, other people do [put anything that you’d think is absolutely fine] better/differently so we must be doing it wrong and it will fall/catch on fire/explode. Being positively realistic is IMHO the best path.
But what do I know, maybe that is just the positive side of me talking and some train really derails and hits me in my office in 4th floor.
There does also exist kinds of mania that comes with all the same downsides.
Some of my most depressing moments where expressed through positive joy. Nothing hurt more then people proclaim how much more they like me “this way”. Which i answered with a big dumb smile.
I can’t and won’t blame people for not seeing trough the mask, the point of masking is that they don’t see but considering those where my parents it hit deep that they where so easily fooled by a pure act.
I always wonder if obsessively negative people ever feel joy. Or are they just wired to carry around rage boners all the time. If it isn’t exhausting I just can’t see how they can be happy
A lot of it comes from trauma, not always, but a lot.
I always wonder if obsessively negative people ever feel joy.
We are. We are just more prone to demand justice, for people to be non-imbeciles. We feel joy when something good happens, we just rarely express that openly, because we believe that nice things are as it SHOULD be. Nice is normal. No reason to dance around about something as banal as “things going right”. But we are angry about shit. More angry than most people who consider shit normal, but good things are something strange.
We, “obsessively negative people”, are optimists.
It’s one thing to demand justice for those who cannot obtain it themselves. That is noble, and just.
It’s quite another to lament all day about the guy who absent mindedly stole your place in the self checkout lane. To lay in accusations of malice when ignorance would otherwise do.
I’ll grant you that the way things should be is very often at odds with the way things are. But no person I’ve met who I would describe as an obsessively negative person could ever be labeled an optimist. Their view of the world is always one of conflict. No grace given for innocent mistakes, no breath taken when the weight of the world comes down upon their shoulders in a way that simply cannot be changed. These people are ever the victim of their own mentality.
I wonder if they can experience joy because they seem hard wired to find the fault in every bit of happiness. To seek out sour grapes and bitter apples in every bowl of sweet fruit.
Yes, that’s healthy for me, but what about the people around me who need to maintain the illusion that everything is fine and okay?
“Gasligting” I suppose it is called in English and it is considered bad.
Good boy Mr. Peanut Butter.
I am a centrist…but for anyone near me. You happy? Don’t you see all this fucked up shit? You sad? Come ooon, look at all the places where sun shines through the bad news!
I am making other people bipolar xD
I’m kinda just lukewarm all the time. Not overly positive or negative. Course that can vary depending on the day
What makes a man go … neutral
Tell my wife… I said… hello…
Isn’t it exhausting?
So… you’re like, emotionally stable?
I guess dysthymia is technically being emotionally stable.
Seems like a rarity these days huh
I have BPD; there are only extremes. There is no middle ground.
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Its not negativity, it don’t-give-a-shittery
