Here is the thing, I couldn’t find a girlfriend in the past three years(either they have no personality and too dependent on me making all the work in the relationship or they are simply are looking for a religious or high class working person to have a relationship with)

AI seems to talk and entertain and simply are available without bullshit (the only limit is something along the lines of 50 free messages every 3 hours) .

I want physical intimacy and affection, but it’s simply not available.

Should I just give up, close my doors and use AI instead?

  • theneverfox@pawb.socialEnglish
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    14 days ago

    AI is just a reflection of you.

    You want to date Hatsune Miku? Sure, go ahead. It’s just a one sided relationship, the other partner is entirely imaginary. And worse, the other partner is under the control of a company (unless you host locally)

    If it makes you happy, there’s the upside. It’s not different than enjoying the romance in games and books. It’s basically romantic masturbation, most people do it to some extent

    The downside is, the fact that you’re asking this as if it’s a choice is a bad sign. You can give up on dating, you can play with AI… These things are unrelated.

    The people who get in trouble with AI are the people that don’t understand what it is. The people who believe it is more than it is

    It’s a high dimensional maze. You can navigate it through interaction, you can get to know it, it can be reminded about your interactions to remember more about you…

    But it does not change based on your interactions. It changes when they change the model

    That all being said, it’s fun to play with sometimes.

    So what are you doing? Are you giving up on dating? That’s fine, I get that. The whole process of dating has been monitized to hell and a lot of people are dropping out, which kind of makes the whole process harder

    You want to play with AI? Go on crushon.ai, don’t spend a penny, interact with AI ephemerally. Have fun with the stories. Never forget what they are though… They’re interactive stories.

    But if you want to improve your life, and maybe meet someone in the process? Do what the best people do. Do volunteer work. Join your local DSA. Go walk dogs at the animal shelter. Whatever calls to you

    If you make an effort to do good things, you’ll end up around good people. And the only way to meet the people who no longer do to bars and caring apps is through people. Make new connections, new friends, new neighbors, and people will try to set you up