Both your experiences sound similar to my partner and I: they are neurospicy, I am extrovert. We found what works for us: they decide date and plan, I invite people and coordinate. They plan the menu and are in charge of cooking, that gives them the excuse to “go to the kitchen” for as long as they need at any point and, as already said, a structure to interact with people.
Having 30+ people over for her birthday was horrifying, but I was in the kitchen most of the time, with the occasional person dropping by…
Luckily it wasn’t a dinner party but a buffet & fire pit outside situation. I even came out after dark, to sit by the fire with her and a few people that stayed late :D
Both your experiences sound similar to my partner and I: they are neurospicy, I am extrovert. We found what works for us: they decide date and plan, I invite people and coordinate. They plan the menu and are in charge of cooking, that gives them the excuse to “go to the kitchen” for as long as they need at any point and, as already said, a structure to interact with people.
That sounds oh so familiar:)
Having 30+ people over for her birthday was horrifying, but I was in the kitchen most of the time, with the occasional person dropping by…
Luckily it wasn’t a dinner party but a buffet & fire pit outside situation. I even came out after dark, to sit by the fire with her and a few people that stayed late :D