Context, I’m 30 now and i will find women my age and up attractive, but 15 years ago a 35 year old women would never have been attractive to me.
As I’ve aged younger women are less and less attractive (thankfully)
But when I’m 60 will 60 year old women be attractive to me?
its normal. my tastes have changed as I’ve aged. luckily my partner didn’t stay in her 20s either lol
Since turning 30 I’ve been thinking about the half-your-age-plus-seven rule a lot more. It would feel creepy as fuck to date a 22 year old. Is this all in my head? It feels predatory to swipe right on anyone younger than 25
As a 37 year old 27+ seems reasonable to me, but it would be a lot more of a “maybe”
In Hollywood, the rule is half your age MINUS seven.
LOL
You realize that that “rule” is based on absolutely nothing, right? It’s just arbitrary nonsense that people who are terrified of disorder impose on themselves because rules give them a pleasant secure feeling even when the rule ridiculous :-D
‘creepy’ is a feeling. and like all feelings it is entirely in the eye of the beholder. ‘predatory’ is stupid fear-mongering bullshit. Certain TV personalities made tons of money scaring the fuck out of parents, and they did it by using the vivid violent imagery of vacuous metaphors like ‘predator’
People in their 20s are perfectly capable adults. They are not harmed by consensual sex with people older than them. There is not a shred of evidence that folks over 30 are somehow dangerous or have magic brainwashing powers that they use for evil :-D
So, yes, it’s all in your head. Your culture has taught you to fear something that is 100% harmless on every level.
I’m about to turn 40, and 27 has proven to be too young for me. The folks I’ve had the most success with have been 30+.
At 30, I’d think 25+ is the spot to be in.
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The full analysis is of course much more complicated, but I can’t stay to talk about it because I have a date.
I feel like there is a window that moves with you as you age. At 47 I find women attractive up to their early 50s, and down into their 30s.
I mean dating attractive here. I’m not going to try and claim that a hot twenty something on the telly does nothing for me
I was starting to question myself here lol everyone acting like a hot 20 year old is no longer hot when you’re older meanwhile I see someone I consider attractive they’re always attractive, I just won’t approach them if they’re young.
The only way this doesn’t work is “upward” for me. 40s weren’t attractive when I was younger but they are now, but a hot 20 year old will always be hot to me (I think).
@TIN this is what I think happens too.
Eventually looks are going to be the least important component of attraction. It will continue to be about emotionality and familiarity. Young adults are going to feel less and less relatable and therefore less and less attractive.
It’s personal preference, but basically edge limits that increase over time, like at 15 you’re looking at ±6 months, at 20 it might be + or - 1 or 2 years. At 30 you’re probably at looking at 5 years either side of 30.
Once you hit 500 the attraction window is so large it becomes mostly irrelevant, and you’re judging more on aristocrical lineage and/or aristocrical diet.
It’s only a few more years til 1000 (which usually turns out to be a very dull party with no surprise guests) and by that point you’re lucky to find anyone attractive.
There’s obviously the old ‘hurr durr he’s over 2000 so he must be gay now’ stereotype, but as far as I can tell, attraction isn’t cyclical.
Hope that helps!
Wow, how old are you ( if you don’t mind me asking)?
Do you want to know how old I am, or which aristocrats I’ve eaten 😘
Can I come to your party,? Maybe drink some of your blood? Idk #justsillythings?
That first paragraph…z then you really took off. lol
You might like this one too where I gave an explanation on what happens at parties:
Im 6 million years old now, and im attracted to literal planets.
I remember at 2000 the hur due jokes. But honestly everyone’s giblets are so shriveled at that age (unless enhanced through mummification etc) that gender becomes irrelevant. Kind of comes down to who has the best stories at that point.
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I too like them thicc af.
It’s hard not to be gravitationally attracted to them.
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On the other side, as someone younger it’s hard to date people much older, as they start casually talking about what they did during various wars, or comparing the COVID pandemic to the black plague, and I’ve just got zero frame of reference to connect.
Everyone much older I’ve met has been just delightful (I assume the rude ones eventually get murdered by their local townsfolk) but it’s just so hard to make that genuine connection when your life experiences are so different, you know?
As the people we relate to change, so too do the things we find attractive in people. This will be a constantly changing thing
Yeah. Don’t worry. Everything is gonna be irie. When you’re eighty there’s gonna be some sweet seventy six year old that’ll catch your eye. It’s how it is.
You’re asking a completely subjective question about yourself to other people. What possible answer could you hope to get?
Possibly a series of subjective answers that display a pattern. You pedantic twat…
You’re right i should discount the experience of everyone else in the world.
Ive never been on fire, everyone that has and survived hasn’t enjoyed it but maybe i shoukd burn myself just in case
Non sequitur, strawman.
A fire causes harm, your opinion on how unpleasant it is won’t change that. On the other hand, the only person who could possibly know your own romantic preferences is you.
Maybe other people have a similar initial experience, but changed as they aged and therefore can impart some wisdom.
All I know is that everybody says retirement homes are full of horny old people fucking all the time so maybe? Either that or old people just don’t care as much about attraction and are just happy all the parts still work
My guess is as an adult you’ll always be attracted to women around the 25-35 range most but maybe once you get old you’ll also find some stuff to appreciate in grannies
They are. I used to work at one and it was not an unusual experience to walk in on residents giving head to each other or fucking.
I wonder if it’s still as enjoyable or exciting as when they were younger.
just turned 40, i can def tell when someone in their 20s is hot, but I’d be really unlikely to date them. But, for example, meeting some rando at a bar and hooking up is different, as long as everyone is on board with the situation and consents. I’ve started finding older women attractive more than I would have when I was younger, it’s just hard to meet people at this age and covid wasted my late 30s doing nothing
Xaviera Hollander said that a man isn’t old until there are no women his own age he finds attractive.
I like that
So I was old when I turned 13?
Or gay?
[jk]
It could be two things
Really I’m grateful for anyone who gives me the time of day.
The other day I thought about fucking a tree when it was bent over by the wind.
Who hasn’t had sexy thoughts about a plant at least once in their life?
god i wish most men were like this. but there’s 50 yr old men out there dating women fresh out of highschool, yuck
OP doesn’t mention their gender.
true, i made an assumption. either way, its yuck to date someone fresh out of HS if you’re 10, 20, 30, 40+ years older. imo there’s no reality where an 18 year old should be dating a 30 year old, even though it is legal
I think that if people are of an age where they can legally and ethically consent, and if there isn’t any kind of abuse of power going on, it’s none of my damn business. Maybe people should just fuck off with pushing their ideas about morality on other people.
im not pushing anything on anyone?? this is my opinion and i am allowed to have it, i’m not making any laws. i also agree with the other commenter that there’s no way a relationship between a 30 year old and an 18 year old doesn’t have an unbalanced maturity and power level dynamic. this is my opinion.
Some people are of the opinion that it’s gross and immoral for two men to be romantically or sexually involved.
Some people think that anyone that doesn’t identify with the gender they were born with is mentally ill and should be committed until they’ve come to their senses.
It’s just, like, their opinion, man. Them expressing their opinion frequently, any time they see someone that might be gay or transgender isn’t pushing their opinion, they’re just expressing a belief.
Young women are free to date whoever they want. That is a great thing. Bodily autonomy. It’s something to celebrate.
Being in my 40s, I am relieved to say that I keep finding women attractive that are my age, and I look at people in their 20s as, well, kids. Even in my porn, I keep looking for women more my age.
That’s true physically, but also emotionally. There is a humbling nearly all decent people seem to go through in their late 20s to 30s that at this point is a necessary point of bonding for me.
There isn’t a limit, your tastes on what you consider “attractive” will change over time. When one is young one only thinks on reproduction, and the older one gets, the more prevalent just having someone who you enjoy keeping you company.
When one is young one only thinks on reproduction
Depending on your definition of “young”, what it actually is is that young people mainly think of fucking.
Which looking at it on a purely biological lens is to satiate a need to procreate.
Speaking in terms of ultimate (evolutionary) causes, obviously, but on a proximate level of, for example, what the people in question actually think and feel, as well as the practical outcome given the accessibility of effective contraceptives, it has nearly nothing to do with reproduction.
