I’m not sure if is just me but it trully does seem that the prevalence of neurodiversity in places like this is way higher than in the average population.
Got sick of people saying “oh, you’re not weird!” and still having people act like I definitely was. I accepted that I am strange compared to typical people, and I explored spaces where people give less of a fuck about what I do.
I like people who can acknowledge that “yes, this is / you are a bit strange, but that’s fine. We get it. You don’t have to mask it here.”
Social norms exhaust me. I like spaces where that is not expected of me and folks can simply be like “yeah, I see you and I get it, have a nice day” instead of being seen as being socially disruptive and grilled/silently judged for it by people who don’t actually care to really understand it.
It gets tiring trying to politely explain “I look like this because I enjoy it and like expressing myself through clothes/makeup/whatever. I’m not going to a party/play/dressed up for an event/this is not a dare/I’m not a dangerous or scary person because I look different from you.”
Alt spaces are more open to that kind of thing. “Hey, love the look, man.” “Thanks.”
EDIT: specifically referring to Lemmy, since it’s more of a chore to navigate, I think only people with more dedication will thrive & stay here.
Not to mention… a lot of furries. Lots. Lotta tech folk are furries, and furry communities have a higher population of ND folks, and they have a higher population because the furry community are generally more accepting of the less typical/outcasted folks and they’re like “yeah,we get it! Come on in, fellow oddball!”
I think that’s part of it.
God, yes!
It’s also exhausting when people say one thing, you react to it, then they get all pissy because you were apparently supposed to know they meant something else that wasn’t said.
That or they get angry and tell you not to take things so literally, as if it’s your fault they said what they said.
It’s a constant minefield full of their emotions that is somehow your responsibility to navigate without stepping on a mine. Bonus: They placed the mines there.
I think there are a ton of comorbidities in this area that I don’t fully understand. When you go into techy/hacker/FLOSS spaces you start seeing a lot of LGBTQ+/neurodivergent/furry/left-leaning/etc people. Many people will even be all of those at once. I have no idea why and most of my experience is starting from the furry angle where 80%+ of furries are LGBTQ+, neurodivergence is much higher than average, computer fluency is almost a given, and leaning left is often a matter of survival.
If someone knows why I’m dying to know. My best guess is that some of those attributes have small portions that link hard to other attributes, and it all comes along like a chain.
My best bet is that the politically-left encourages a mindset, that revolves around openness (in the sense of communism), creativity (queerness) and a great ability to think in equilibriums and equations (and Zen-Buddhism), rather than progress and advances. That leads to natural tendencies like math (I see a lot of queer people also study math) and FOSS rather than money-making enterprise.
I’m not a furry so i’m talking from an outside perspective. I think furries are people, who aren’t accepted in the society, so they start attending furry things to be more accepted.
Hmmm… An interesting question. I have a few thoughts.
Firstly, the fediverse generally leans towards an open accepting atmosphere, where people are more open about this sort of thing (hell, I recently put a pretentious nd symbol in my mastodon name recently). Could be that people just talk about it more here and it’s confirmation bias.
Secondly, I’ve heard heard that autistic people tend to have a strong feeling of social justice and are more willing to break social norms for what’s “right”. Considering that most companies now don’t really act ethically or in the interests of their customers, it makes sense that autistic people would look elsewhere.
Looking at Reddit specifically, I and many other people want to be able to access the site in any way we choose. Reddit have basically said that they don’t care about that, nor about accessibility. They just want to shove ads down our throats and sell our data to AI companies.
It’s honestly quite frustrating how many people seem to lie down and take it, or decide that the solution is to go to worse walled gardens like Discord.
Yes. I’m part of a local computer nerd/hacker group and probably at least 50% of people there are neurodivergent
That legitimately sounds amazing.
