I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.
24 minutes before a right answer is pretty good for one of these tbh. u right tho
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I’ve gotten used to saying,“I continue to be blessed with gainful employment” in my usual flat sarcastic tone. At a surface level it’s gratitude focused, but the context of my high-stress job and my deadpan delivery accurately communicates my stress level but in a way people find just humorous enough that it doesn’t stress them out further in turn. Communicating my inner emotional state in a way they don’t find stressful also helps create that very slight emotional intimacy that they’re seeking by inquiring (but that also benefits the highly team-oriented nature of my work). On the other hand it allows both of us to maintain a comfortable emotional distance because it doesn’t really prompt any in-depth response or further inquiry into my well being, just an acknowledgement that I said it such as,“I know, right?”
So I would maybe see if you can find a similar scripted / canned statement that communicates your actual emotional state in a slightly humorous manner. For instance “They’re gettin’ their money’s worth outta me today!” or if you work in a 9-5 office job people might respond well to “Whelp. It’s Monday alright.” You could even go extra catch-phrase-y and say something like “maybe not thriving, but definitely surviving!” Exactly what sounds good with your overall “vibe” in the context of the “vibe” of your workplace will vary and might take some experimentation to find. My above canned response suits my personal vibe because I’ve got that hyperlexic autism thing going on so the relative complexity of my phrasing makes people go,“Yup, that’s Apy alright!” (again, slight emotional intimacy) but also fits well in the context of a job that’s expected to be stressful.
You can practice saying it in front of a mirror or under your breath and after a while it will just start rolling off your tongue with very little emotional or cognitive effort on your part. It’ll also require less emotional or cognitive effort than ruminating on your inner emotional state and feeling like you’re having to make a conscious decision about whether or not to lie about it or worse opening yourself up to dumb questions and statements from people who know next to nothing about how to actually discuss mental health concerns.
Source: am high acuity psych nurse with a borderline personality diagnosis. I’ve had a lot of social skills training as part of my own diagnosis / treatment plus I’ve observed a lot of people’s behavior and had to learn a lot about team dynamics to do my job.
Best of luck!
That’s exactly what I mean, and I agree that it sounds awful. It’s like people go into these conversations deciding which side the other person is on based on which they can argue the most with.
At this point the trolley problem is "would you like to vote for killing 1000 per year for the next four years or would you like to vote for killing 4000 people this year with the hope that maybe it’ll cause the whole trolley system to self destruct…? (The numbers are purely illustrative).
Edit: apparently it’s not obvious that I think these are both horrible options, and I voted for the limping painfully along for an extended period.
Papermate inkjoy. The other nurses keep trying to steal my last one that I stole from my last workplace just before it started going downhill and stopped buying the nice pens. It was about 6-8 months before they swapped all our managers and supervisors with ones that were literally physically violent. Now that I think about it the pens have actually been a pretty good thermometer of all my past workplaces. If you go to a hospital and all the nurses have the same decently nice pens, that means their employer is probably taking decent care of them (at least as far as healthcare execs go) and well kept nurses are better at taking care of patients.
It could barely make calls. It can make calls as a party trick but you can’t really access your contacts book in an easily usable way, you can’t start new text conversations, and you can’t view your full calendar and you definitely can’t add events. I don’t need much for a watch to replace my phone but I do need it to call and text well and I need to be able to access my calendar. It’s very clear that those devices are designed and intended to add more tracking and monitoring and dopamine hooks on top of your phone, not to replace it with a less intrusive alternative. It was actually fairly frustrating.
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I hope they make one I can make calls from without a phone I tried to switch to smartwatch-only late last year but even the Samsung watch couldn’t handle that.
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my cat definitely thinks yawning = ready to provide pets but she also thinks everything else I do indicates readiness to provide pets so idk
This is weirdly deep.
To me the same question about ds9 was always answered by the explanation that utopia is a state that must be maintained, not an endpoint that must be reached. When you’ve got a good thing going, you can’t just stop paying attention to what your leaders are doing and just trust that you’ve reached a point where they’ll always respect your interests. You have to stay involved to maintain the things you’ve achieved.
Awkward by not talking is 100% better, especially from a strategic standpoint. I would be so much farther in life right now if I only knew how to keep my fat fucking mouth shut. There’s a reason the “strong silent type” is a trope. You might be a weird nervous awkward little fuck in there but nobody can prove it.