Do you consider ghosting people a reasonable way to deal with today’s overwhelming and constant information and notification overload? Or do you find it offensive and unfriendly?
Would you equate it to a person ignoring you irl or is ignoring a text different?
For this post let’s assume the people involved are or were in the past friends, and ghosting is leaving someone on “read” for more than 2 days.
it’s being offended for the sake of being offended.
i notice the people who complain about ghosting in online dating apps… almost always do it to me.
we had ‘ghosting’ in the 90s and 2000s too. we just didn’t use that term for it. you’d go out with someone and they’d ignore your calls or avoid you in school. the message was clear.
We don’t live in the 90s anymore. It was wrong to do then and it is even more wrong to do it now, since we actually know what it is and even have a word for it now.
Just find some decency to let the other person know you’re not interested anymore. It’s really one simple text.
There is a case for ghosting. Some people sinply will refuse to stop interacting with you unless you forcibly cut it off by ignoring them. This is more or less what happened with my most recent ex
You get it.
I always feel like the anti-ghosting people just… have no active social lives. Therefore they can’t comprehend with dealing with weirdos who require you to ghost/ignore them because they simple do not understand social cues and/or can’t accept direct rejection. They always argue from social ideals where everyone is perfect and wonderful and there are no bad actors or ill-intentioned folks out there.
I notice people with active social lives don’t really see anything wrong with ghosting… because it’s just part of life and when you have an active social life strangers come and go into your life all the time and you don’t think much about it. Especially as you get older and you don’t dwell on peer acceptance as much as you do in your teens and 20s.
And it’s always been part of life. You ignore people you don’t like. You respond and engage people you like. But for some reason people can’t simple get it through their heads… if the person liked them they would not be ghosting them. Ghosting isn’t the issue… it’s their self-esteem being offended that they tolerate.
Have enough decency to accept someone ghosting you means they don’t want to interact with you anymore and that they do not own you an explanation as to why. You’re not that special.